Post # 1
My FMIL (very sweet woman) wrote up a list of people to invite to our wedding but I noticed she left out almost every member of her husbands side of the family! I asked her about the people she left out and she said not to be friends with them and that they were nasty people.
I’ve met them before many times. and they’ve always been friendly with me… sometimes more than her side of the family… Also, my dad knows some of the people she left out and it might strain their relationships… Do I keep them off the invite list? Or inform her nicely that I just don’t feel comfortable at this time leaving them off?
Post # 3
I’d also ask your dad about who to invite. He would be the one to make that call
Post # 4
Why not ask who your future father in law wants at the wedding and invite those people? Maybe he doesn’t want them there.
Post # 5
Have you spoken to your dad about this (you said he’s friends with these people)? Are your parents paying/ hosting this event. If your father wants them there and if your parents are hostign then she does not get to dictate this
Post # 6
My dad feels awkward about not inviting them but also doesn’t want to cause a strained relationship with my FMIL. My parents are paying for and hosting the entire event. I think it’s a great idea to ask my FFIL what he thinks and maybe I’ll bring up how my dad feels as well. My FFIL is very shy and quiet though and the FMIL kind of runs the show.