- 6 years ago
- Wedding: January 2013
For ages my Future Mother-In-Law has been nothing but rude and impolite. Not directly mind you, but in snide insensitive ways. Like if she was at my FI’s house she wouldnt speak to me when I spoke to her or she would get up and go to the patio and not even acknowledge me. Also when we took our Christmas photos she conveniently chopped me out of the photos to put on Facebook.
Oh and the one time she tried to set him up to drive four 20 somethings and stay over night in a hotel with them and even provide the alcohol. For the most part its just being impolite.
Now all of a sudden things have shifted. My Fiance told his father a few months ago that my ex husband was not a nice person. He abused me to the point of almost killing me in a drunken rampage. So two weeks ago my Future Father-In-Law asked my Fiance if my ex husband was going to be a problem for us after we married. I.e. that he would be their father and possibly looking into adopting them since my ex husband has no legal right to my children anymore. So in walks Future Mother-In-Law and she asked what their talking about. Future Father-In-Law says well her ex was an SOB and we are just discussing if we need to take precautions.
Future Mother-In-Law ask what he meant by that. FFIL and my Fiance explain to her that I almost died because of my ex and that he was an awful person who did terrible things to me and the kids.
So she says (I still cant believe it) ” you make sure she has a good life from here on out and protect her.” Now every time I see her she is trying to hug me. She wants to talk now.
Its like she hated me before and now all of a sudden she sees me differently even though I have always been the same. I dont know if its genuine like or if she feels sorry for me.
Its weird. I dont want her pity or her sympathy. The only reason Fiance shared with Future Father-In-Law about my ex husband is because he is dangerous and my Fiance has two small children. Fiance wanted to make Future Father-In-Law aware that there is a possibility that my ex could prove dangerous to us.
So now Future Mother-In-Law knows and now all of a sudden Im her project. She wants to talk to me about everything. The wedding, the kids, the honeymoon.
I want her to like me for me, not because she pities me for what I went through and survived.
Has anyone else had such a drastic turn around with their FMIL?