Post # 1
FI’s W2 came in yesterday so we went over to his mom’s house to pick it up. We started discussing the wedding and how my tax refund was coming in soon and would pay off the wedding except for the photographer. She looks me dead in the eye with a straight face and says, “Your father is the one responsible for paying for the wedding, why dont you just tell him to pay for it? Its his job as your father.”
I literally laughed out loud. She has only met my father one time, so she doesnt know him very well, but he made it perfectly clear to me several years ago that if i wanted to get married, i was on my own for the cost. I just had to share! She’s funny.
Post # 3
@MrsWinTraining2014: Ugh! I’m groaning out loud for you over here in commiseration :-/
Post # 4
@MrsWinTraining2014: Wah? I am groaning as well. This is a tradition that needs to go away imo. My parents didn’t even get me a card when I got married and then demanded a “thank you gift” for coming and taking pictures at the event. :/
Post # 5
@MrsWinTraining2014: LOL! Is it bad that the second I got engaged all the people at work automatically assumed my parents would be paying for the wedding? I had to explain that FI and I, as well as my older sister and her FI, would be paying for it ourselves as we didn’t feel it was right to accept money from anyone. I left out the part about my parents not offering to pay because they have no money to offer, but even if they did we would want to pay for it on our own.
I think its just a generational thing. More and more couples are getting married later on and have the money available to pay for the wedding themselves.