Post # 1
Let’s start here that my FMIL is a great and funny lady but lately she’s driving me crazy, she’s making more a big deal of this wedding than me (the bride). I’m not sure why she’s acting like this lately, she WAS NOT like this when her oldest daughter got married. First, I went dress shopping with her, and she got two dresses because she was scared someone would wear the same dress as her. She then got her hair extension, spent a fortune and told me she must got someone to do her hair/make up. (I originally wasn’t going to add this service because I couldn’t afford it, but I’ve decided to add this so my BMs could also get their hair done too). Then she overheard my conversation with my mom about an unrelated topic..she heard half of the conversation and though my fi was going to buy my mom something. It wasn’t true but anyway – she was upset and told my fi’s dad and we had to go shopping with her today so my FI could get her a clutch for the wedding! I just found out about this today, and it’s the day that we were both busy and couldn’t go shopping with her. And even if my FI did got something for my mom I wouldn’t think it’s unreasonable.
Then she gave my fi a hard time because we would be gone to honeymoon during Mother’s day and his sister’s birthday. We honestly have spent every single mother’s day with her (I didn’t get to spend the actual day with MY mom). So my FI told her – honeymoon is once in a life time vs. mother’s day is every year. At that moment, I was glad that we “got away” from Mother’s Day this year.
I’ve got almost everyone done before the big day and just want to be a ‘chilled’ bride but I think my limits here is being pushed. 🙁
Post # 2
She’s acting kind of selfish. usually people act this way when they are jealous. I would ignore her. Just focus on yourself and your groom. stressing or spending anytime thinking about it will ruin your experience.
Post # 3
maybe she’s feeling insecure about something?
Post # 4
That stinks! Why not seperate for Mother’s Day next year and see your mom alone?!
Post # 5
Yikes! She needs to take a chill pill.
Post # 6
If she wants to buy herself 2 dresses and hair extensions why does that matter?
As for her demanding make up and a hair stylist, tell her to pay for it herself and she can buy her own clutch too.
Your FI already handled the honeymoon thing, so it’s a non issue.
Post # 7
She’s sounding like shes seeking attention. Is he her baby boy? Im sorry this is ending up stressing you out, it sounds like ur FI is irritated with her behavior too which is good bc he is backing you up. Good luck, there is probably nothing you can do but put up with it. Hopefully she chills out after the wedding. I think you guys should give her a gift.. bottle of wine maybe she will leave you alone for a couple of nights 😉
Post # 8
@lovemelovemyhorses I guess I’m just annoyed the fact that she’s so demanding for this wedding..I’m the bride AND I wont even be changing into two different outfits. She’s making a big deal for all the little things when I just want to simply get married. I didnt even mention that she made a comment about my mom AND my dress size being ‘big’ in front of us! I just hope she would make this less about ‘her’ and considerate of our time and budget. I even got a hotel room the night before so she doesnt need to rush on wedding day!
Post # 9
Well the dress thing and hair extensions is whatever, I would probably be annoyed a little even though I think its a little weird. Although, whats she gonna do if someone does show up in the same dress, have the other one in her car and run out to get it then go change? Now her being upset cause she thought he was buying your mom something, even if he was, whats wrong with that? Hes not allowed to buy his future MIL something? And to insist he buy her a clutch, is a little rude. Thats the weirdest part.
Post # 10
I’d ignore her and talk to her less about plans (hers and yours). Some mothers get so hyped about themselves, they forget it’s not their wedding. For my own mom, I’m telling her when and where we’re getting ready and letting her know she’s welcome to show up whenever she wants to. I find her stressful with all the last-minute things she just “has” to do. I’m pretty sure (given how she was before my sibling’s wedding) that my mom will be getting more dolled up and spending more money on her looks than I will, especially last minute. I don’t care where she is or what she’s doing but I want her to be happy and I don’t want to hear about any of this fuss and I’m making that clear.
when she was supposed to be with everyone getting ready for my sibling’s wedding, my mom was instead doing last minute shopping for her “getting ready outfit,” buying makeup and hanging out in town, creating a huge fuss ans disruption because she still needed to shower, and deciding to spend money she’d promised to my sibling for them to use as they wanted for the wedding to instead buy things for herself, hire ppl to do everyone’s hair/makeup (it was supposed to be optional and covered by whoever wanted to get it), and hiring unnecessary shuttles.
I know another MOG who was so insistent on “ultra-special” primping appointments that she was so late that they had to do the ceremony without her and she didn’t even make it to the reception on time. Everybody was upset. to avoid this, I’d make sure at some point that your FI tells her that everything will start on time, no matter what.