- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2012
When my FMIL and my mom offered to throw me a bridal shower I thought “Great! Now I don’t have to worry!”
OMG. Biggest mistake ever. The four (my FI wanted to be involved as well, since he’s planning on being there for the whole shower) of us sat down last night to talk about what we (my FI and I) wanted for the shower. Or so I thought.
The discussion began like this:
Me: I’d like “______” (<—- Fill in a preferred food, beverage, venue, etc.)
FMIL: No. We’re not doing that. We’re doing “______” (<— Fill in whatever the opposite of what I just said.)
For example: I wanted a laid back shower where people can enjoy themselves, eat, drink and not to do the typical “let’s all come and watch the bride-to-be open gifts for two hours.”
SHE has a pre-made guest list with OVER A HUNDRED PEOPLE on it. Did I mention there will be NO alcohol because SHE doesn’t want it. For food she wants to do the only kind of food that I do not like. (Polish food. No offense…but I can’t stand it.) She doesn’t want any kind of decoration or theme, and the list goes on…
Oh, and she’s veto-ed any and ALL shower games, regardless of what me or my mother suggest. She thinks they’re tacky and instead wants people to eat, give me a gift, watch me open it, and leave.
By the way, that amazing and gorgeous barn that I found which has a great lawn for playing lawn games and is like, 5 minutes from my house, the place that made me re-think where my reception venue was because it was so gorgeous? NOPE.
Instead we’re having it at some VFW hall that has NASTY carpet, dirty bathrooms, and smells like week-old beer stains and cigarettes. She’s all but put the deposit down.
I’m literally about ready to tell her not to bother. Maybe it’s just me, but why ask what I want if you’re just going to do what you want regardless of how I feel? Ugh…
Any other bees going through something similar or have any suggestions? My FI and I are stumped as to what to do. I had NO idea his mom was a total Mom-Zilla. :/