Post # 1
So my fiances parents are separted and my fiance took his dad’s side. His mother everytimes she sees my fiance, argues, calls him names, calls me names. They were in an arguement and crossed the line with me by call me a fat ass b*tch. my fiance then told her she wasn’t invited to the wedding and she replies with “good, i didn’t want to go to that trainwreck wedding anyway”. I want nothing to do with her and haven’t seen her so far for 3 weeks (and it AWESOME).
My fiance and I are going over our guest list. I do not want her to come, my family does not want her to come, and my fiance’s dad;s side of the family does not want her to come. I want to say to him, she’s not coming. but i’m not sure what to do. My fiance hasn’t talked to his mother in a couple weeks, but she’s being “pretend nice” to make the list. I”m not sure what to do????
Post # 3
You are over a year out, why the rush? Things can change every 5 seconds so I would just hold out until you get closer to the date to see where things stand.
He’s the one that said she wasn’t invited so just ask him straight up. And this should be his decision whether he wants his mom to come or not. Do you think I wanted my MIL at our wedding? No, but it wasn’t up to me.
Post # 4
Ugh this is a tough one. I feel your pain on disliking your in-laws. I’m not a real big fan of mine either.
I would sit down FI and ask him what he wants. Even though you don’t want her there, you shouldn’t be the one that says no to her being invited (I don’t think anyway). You don’t want to be the one in the middle or the one who “causes” a fall out between your FI and her. I would let him decide and if he wants her not invited, he should be the one to inform her.
Good luck and hang in there!
Post # 5
Hmmm….thats a big decision to not invite his mom, I think that needs to be his decision. It sucks thats she such a horrible person to you and the things she said are unnecessary, but as much as you and everyone else don’t want her there, unfortunately FH needs to be the one to decide that.
Post # 6
When it comes to family, my SO and I have a rule: your family is your business and my family is mine, any family related decisions are made by the person related and we support each other even if we don’t agree (which is often)… we both have drama filled families, so this works out well and has for the last 7 years.
Post # 7
How about you send her to my wedding and I’ll send my mom to your wedding that way neither bad person is at our own wedding?
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Post # 9
let him deal with it….didn’t he already say that she is not invited anyway? this woman sounds like trouble and does not get along with anyone. I agree let him deal with his side of family.
Post # 10
Since you’re over a year out, I wouldn’t worry about it too much at this point. Things can change in that time (especially with her by the sounds of it)! At the end of the day it will be your FI’s decision since it’s his mother. Lots of sympathy for having a FMIL who behaves like a sociopathic teenager though!