Post # 1
OKAY. SO. I told FMIL I would take her dress shopping for a dress. Everytime I go to the mall I scout out the dress sections to see if they have anything good so I can make a date to go take her. There hasn’t really been anything good yet. I am thinking holiday cocktail dresses will be out soon and then we’ll really hit the jackpot. So we have NOT gone yet.
Today I found out from FH that she has been talking crap about me like, “oh she promised to take me shopping but I bet she has gone with her own mom already and she isn’t even going to take me.”
SERIOUSLY? I am NOT A LIAR! I AM GOING TO TAKE THAT CRAZY WOMAN SHOPPING.
Sorry for not wanting to go on a fruitless search where she’d probably blame me for not being able to find anything good. THEN I would have to take her AGAIN. I want this to be a sure thing so I have to spend as little time with her as possible because she is seriously cuckoo for cocoa puffs!
Post # 3
@mrstau732: Have you actually talked to her and said you are holding off until holiday season dresses arrive in store?
Post # 4
Have you actually talked to her about a time for going shopping rather than just looking without her and calling her “cuckoo for cocoa puffs” behind her back?
Post # 5
@j_jaye: When I told her I’d take her I told her we’d have to wait until closer to the holidays. She has selective hearing and all she heard was dress shopping.
@Jacqui90: When I told her I’d take her I told her we’d have to wait until closer to the holidays. She has selective hearing and all she heard was dress shopping.
Please don’t judge me. She has been passive agressively uncooperative since we got engaged. She bad mouths me to my FH. I don’t run around calling her names in real life. I feel like on weddingbee I should be able to call her whatever I want without judgement.
Post # 6
@mrstau732: We only can respond to the information you give us, we didn’t know she was passive aggressive and bad mouthing you behind your back. If you are posting on a public forums you need to accept that you may get responses that aren’t all going to be exactly what you want to hear.
Get your FI to stand up to his mother, tell her how amazing you are, and walk away/hang up if she tries to keep bad mouthing you. If she keeps bringing up the dress shopping, remind her gently that it will happen over the holidays and set a tenative date. Every time she brings it up, remind her. I know that is frustrating but it is really all you can do.
Post # 7
@mrstau732: I just want to point out that even though this is a forum this is real life. It is very easy to work out who a majority of posters are (as in names etc) from what they post on a forum. So bitching about someone on a forum is indeed doing it in real life. By your thinking i could call you whatever I like without judgement just because I am on wedding bee!
If you know that she has selective hearing rather than getting bent out of shape why not just tell her again that you want to wait until the new dresses are out. Why would that be such a big deal?
Post # 8
Ugh, MIL’s are SO CRAZY! Ask your DH to stick up for you!!
And remember, this too shall pass. Weddings tend to bring out the craziness in people. It always helped me to have a glass of wine and relax 🙂
Post # 9
- Wedding: July 2014 - Prague
Maybe you could make a date to look online together before you go out into the great wide world of malls. You could do some research prior to offer a few options…