- 9 years ago
- Wedding: May 2009
My FMIL is not coming to the wedding and that really hurt FH, that is the reason why she really pissed me off.
A little background, FH and I met while he was stationed in CA and we started dating right before he was deployed to Iraq, yes he was still married but was legally separated. FH is from GA and comes from a very very small family, just his mom 3 brothers, aunt, 4 cousins and 2 grandparents. He helps his mom with money and anything she needs as long as it’s with in our means and reach. By all means he is a great son which she doesn’t recognize. I come from a huge family with extended family all over CA, which we tend to all gather for all special events. I know my grandfather’s cousin’s kids kids, to give you an idea.
We decided to have the wedding in CA because it would a lot easier for his family to come than for my entire family to go to GA. We knew his grandparents would be coming because they are older and traveling would be too hard on them, fine. His aunt was iffy since she isn’t really close and his 2 brothers are currently in jail, his other 3 cousins don’t care much either for us. They are not close at all compared to my family, for this reason and many more FH loves being part of my family and everyone loves FH and took him ever since we started dating. The only 2 left were his mom and younger brother, 14 yo, we expected to be here along with his cousin who lives in Texas and is in the Army as well. We visited his cousin back in January and is beyond stocked about the wedding and has confirmed her attendance, they are really close like sister and brother.
Well back when we decided to get married FH called his mom to tell her and ask her to come. She said wasn’t sure because blah blah she had to work and who would take care of her animals and his little brother had school, she would let him know. Well, she has neighbors who are more than willing to watch her house and pets, his brother is homeschooled so not like he would miss anything and we let her know with plenty of time for her to ask for time off at work. We were willing to pay her airfare and all expenses; all she had to do was show up….no expense to her at all. So again FH called her in mid March to ask her again to make the reservations, I already knew she wasn’t coming because we would have had the reservations months ago. She said the same thing, not coming, and she can’t drive the little brother to the airport in Atlanta because it’s too far, according to her. She can’t go to the local airport because he might get lost, when switching planes in Atlanta. Bunch of BS if you ask me.
I could just see FH’s heartbreak when she was making all those excuses I was about to take the phone and give her a piece of my mind. The last comment she made was-well I was at your first wedding anyway-and FH told her-well that one doesn’t count because we got married cuz we had to not because I want to like this time around-. I have asked the wedding coordinator not to mention anything because they all want to know where his family is, it got a little awkward when the harpist started asking questions about that which I thought was being nosey.
So yes, I am mad at that woman for hurting my FH for which I would give life and limb to not see hurting or sad.