(Closed) FMIL sending more people to invite

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 3
1589 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

How did your Fiance not remember his aunt and uncle?


I’m also commenting to follow. We’re paying, but FIs mom joked about inviting her new office when she got an unexpected promotion.

Post # 5
4496 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

But are they really like his aunt and uncle? If your Fiance says they really truly are then I would invite them. Being related by blood doesn’t necessarily make you close to someone. I am closer to some people who I consider to be family more than I am to some who actually are family.

It is annoying that your Future Mother-In-Law forgot and keeps adding people. If your Fiance doesn’t care one way or another if these people attend then I wouldn’t even invite them. But if they are important to your Fiance then I think you should. I would make it clear that you are definitely at your max though and after this absolutely no one else will get an invite.

Post # 7
960 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@pinkcrush:  I would let your Future Mother-In-Law know that invitations have already been ordered and you do not have any additional ones to be sent and explain the capacity problem. To keep the peace I would appologize for not being able to include these two people as well as any additionals she may want to invite, but make sure you let her know the reasons.


I’m having a similar issue as well, but at least oyu have the addresses, I’m getting married in July and I STILL have missing addresses from my Future Mother-In-Law and yes our STD went out a year ago to people we had. But yes everyone seems to think its “OK” to keep adding to the guest list, but I’ve now put my foot down explaining we only have the budget for 200 and yet there are 260 invited and can not do anymore (106 invitations accounted for out of the 112 we’re making) I’ve kept the peace using the “max invites” excuse and making sure to tell people I’m sorry I can not accomodate their request to invite

Post # 8
367 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Erm, no. This too has been a problem for us. If they are like his aunt and uncle, why were they forgotten so easily? Big, fat, NO.

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