Post # 1
She bought a white dress for the wedding. Not kinda white but all white with a 5×5 butterfly on the sleeve. I told her she shouldn’t wear white but she said its fine since I’m wearing ivory, um NO! I have hinted over and over again to her that she should get something other than white, and my FI has talked to her but she’s set, she loves the dress and is going to wear it.
What do I do?
Post # 3
Can color be added to it, such as a jacket, sashes, etc.?
Post # 5
My MIL wore a cream-colored dress (granted, not totally white.) I was a little worried about it, but to tell the truth, didn’t think twice about it on the day-of. While I think it was rude of her to ignore your explicit wishes (I stated no such wishes to my MIL), I also think that if she won’t change her mind or, as PP suggested, add some color, it might just be something you need to let go. It’s not nearly as bad as it seems like it would be 🙂
ETA: It would still totally piss me off, but for your own sanity, you might just have to move past it.
Post # 6
My mother in law wore a white dress to my wedding, she tried to convince me it was light blue, LOL no. My dress was also ivory. I know it seems like a big deal or a “power play” but trust me, no one is going to confuse her for the bride and she is just going to look foolish. I had no less than 8 people whisper to me at my wedding how ridiculous she looked. So really, joke is on her.
Post # 7
@Happy7: Well, it sounds like you and your fiancee spoke to her about she’s set on doing it anyway. Mind as well either get use to her way of things, especially if she’s going to be around much after you guys get married.
Post # 8
Honestly that is the last thing you will be thinking of on your wedding day. No one will mistake her for the bride trust me on that. Is it rude she plans on wearing white sure is, but I honestly would let it go. Let her look foolish…
Post # 9
What the HELL this is just like Monster in Law. Man, go buy her that movie STAT and drop it off!
Awful, just awful.
Post # 10
What is she thinking? Seriously. As PP said, she’s just going to look silly. I feel kind of embarrassed for her. There’s nothing really you can do at this point, unfortunately, except let it go. She really is going to look strange…
Post # 11
I know I have to let it go, but it just seems rude. She of all people know I’ve had such a hard time with the fact my dress isn’t white. But I’m going to buy her a colored shawl to match the butterfly on the dress and hope she get’s the point loud and clear.
Post # 12
Um… I wouldn’t let it go, I would try to get FI to talk to her about it again. You may not think twice about it on the day of but what about the pictures. How do you explain that in the future? O she was just too stubborn to change a dress color?
Post # 13
All eyes will be on you not her and she’ll look silly anyway
Post # 15
I think you just have to let it go but seriously a butterfly? Wtf?!
Post # 16
Wow I would be upset too =( If she is not budging on this one, you’ll have to accept it as much as it sucks. You don’t want to start off your marriage on the wrong foot with your FMIL. It’s probably not the hill you want to die on.
Everyone will know you’re the bride and won’t really pay attention to her. That’s a great idea about getting her a colorful shawl! And maybe a brooch? Or a colorful bolero ? At least a bolero would be worn the whole day.
My mom showed me an ivory dress she liked (I’m wearing ivory). I told her light pink is so flattering on her and the coral is one of the wedding colors, both of which are completely true. Thankfully she changed her mind.