Post # 1
I swear this woman is going to be the death of me. She has to have a freaking comment for every damn thing I say in regards to the wedding or our relationship. FI and I were making wonderful plans on what we would do if we won the lottery (who doesn’t do this??? lol) So I made the comment that we would push up the wedding if we had the money, because money is litteraly the only reason we are not getting married right after I graduate, we want to have so much more money in our savings account before we get married so we can buy a house. ANYWAYS so I say this and she’s like why would you push up the wedding and I reply so I can marry the love of my life and start our lives together. You know what she said to me! And she was dead serious… With the way you two fight you shouldn’t get married any time soon. My reply “We haven’t had a fight in months and when we do they are resolved very quickly.” Her: “Ok you don’t fight but you bicker a lot.” Um no! We banter, FI and I are both very sarcastic people and we give each other a lot of shit but every thing is done in fun with a smile on our faces. When it becomes a problem for one of us, we say okay it’s getting to be to much and we immediatly stop, kiss and move on.
I know this isn’t a huge deal and it doesn’t matter what she thinks because FI and I are extremely happy with each other and are madly in love but jeeze it seems like she has something new to be neagative about everytime I see her. This is just a vent because there is really no point in making a big deal about this to her face but she just makes me so damn mad!
Post # 3
Silly arguement and she ridiclous, clearly if you are engaged you are ready to be married. Don’t egaged with her, just take the in one ear out the other approach, so if she makes stupid comments she doesn’t get a reaction and she knows that you could give two shits about what she says.
Post # 4
I can understand you wanting to vent! I don’t understand why people need to be like that.
No advice from me as you mentioned you just need to vent but that’s very hurtful and I’m sorry she said that. Not fun at all.
Post # 5
Although her comment may have been hurtful, you might want to reflect a minute on how your behavior comes across to other people. Maybe you could keep that bantering for when there is no audience.
Post # 6
@julies1949: You would think that but her and her entire family are like that. We are all sarcastic, I had a hard time being myself around her at first but then I saw that we do have a very similar sense of humor. I think if she didn’t act the same exact way we do then I would be like hey we need to cut this out when we’re around her but since she acts the same way it just hurts more. Like she’s allowed to act like that but I’m not.
Post # 7
people don’t know the inner subtleties of your relationship, and I’d expect anyone to speak up if they thought a loved one might be making a bad relationship choice. If you’re okay with the “bantering”, maybe others are not. Best to save that for when you’re alone together. I know what it’s like to suffer through dinner with a couple who bickers and “banters” and if they’d mentioned marriage, I’d have expressed some concerns too.
Post # 8
@Horseradish: But she does know we banter, I learned most of my good comebacks from her and FI’s brother. FI and I don’t banter in front of a lot of people but we do infront of her because honestly the man would not be so sarcastic if he didn’t learn it from her. What I see it as is that she is allowed to banter with him but I’m not. I swear sometimes they go back and forth more than him and I do. And if she has a problem with our relationship then why wait 5 years to address it? Our relationship hasn’t changed, so I don’t get why it is a problem now.