- 3 years ago
So, my FMIL is great, she’s a super nice lady and loves me A LOT (I say to my FI that she is a “smother” because she is).
She’s super excited, because it’s highly unlikely her other child will ever marry, so this is her one shot. Plus she never really had a wedding of her own it was just a simple 2 person elopement, so I feel the pressure.
She wants to help, but my FI and I are rather particular and we really love working on projects with one another. We’ve given her a task for this pre-wedding event that we’re having and she’s very much obsessed with it. The other day she called and suddenly she wants wedding tasks. I talked to my FI and as much as I love her, I don’t want her involved with wedding stuff (making things, we’re making a lot of the decor). Mainly because she tends to get overly excited and super obsessed and it becomes extremely stressful. We just want a relaxed experience.
Also, we’ve given her other projects and she’s surprisingly botched them pretty badly. I think it’s because she gets super excited and instead of thinking “this project will take 10 hours to do a good job, so I’ll do a bit of it over a few days” she’ll do it IMMEDIATELY (even if it’s 10 at night) and she’ll do all of it, and then of course she gets tired, so the quality will diminish quickly and the end product isn’t great.
When I say she gets obsessed I mean, she’ll call and text all day everyday. She’ll ask the same questions multiple times. For example I am getting my hair done, we talked about it lets say on a Tuesday and I said I wanted to find the right look then I’ll give them salon a call. Well the following day she asked me again if I had called and I should “really get on it” even though the wedding is several months away. She gets obsessed to a point where she will tell any detail we give her to literally anyone she meets, whether it’s a friend, a casual aquaintenance or a stranger. She asked me if she could walk me down the aisle and I had to say no.
But I digress!
Is it wrong for us to just do things ourselves rather than give her tasks? I mean, I try to let her do things. I didn’t want a bridal shower but she really wanted one so I let her take that on.