Post # 1
I posted yesteday about how we’ve been dating for 3 years and she’s refused to even acknowledge that FH has a girlfriend.
She lives only 3 miles from us, but hasn’t attended or even politely declined a single invitation in 3 years. He goes to his family holidays and she leaves the room or changes the subject if ever his brothers mention me in passing. I’ve met his brothers and dad and they are all very nice people.
Last night, she left a message that they would like us to come over on Sunday for a visit. Not a meal, or anything specific, just a basic visit (aka interrogation).
My plan is to kill her with kindness (as suggested) and be polite and as sweet as can be.
But I’ll be honest, something in the pit of my stomach thinks they are going to sit us down and say “We understand you’re thinking about getting married, but this is why we think you souldn’t.” Seriously, she would do that. Argh!
Post # 3
I would go and be polite.You just can’t win with some people….Good luck!
Post # 4
Why don’t they want you getting married?
Post # 5
@amandasf: They have a slew of reasons. I’m 15 years older. That is probably reason #1. Also, I’m divorced and have a daughter. They are very very Catholic, and while I am Catholic, my first marriage is not yet annuled in the church and so I am a tarnished woman. It is in process and when it is complete we’ll have a small ceremony in the church to consecrate the marriage. However we can’t really wait much longer because he wants kids (or at least one) and since I’m older the baby factory will not be open much longer.
Post # 6
I suggest that you and your Fiance sit down and practice what your response might be to various things she might say- a rehearsal of sorts. That way you will be able to remain calm and in control, and present a united front.
Hopefully it will go better than you expect and the rehearsal will prove to be unnecessary.
Post # 7
@julies1949: Good thinking. I must say that even when things got very stressful when he announced our engagement to his extended family at Easter, he has never wavered in his desire to marry me. I’m not worried that they’ll “get to him” or anything.