Post # 1
Yes, a THIRD. We were never really close. I’ve been with Fiance 8 years (not counting a break). And she and I..I guess you could say we were cordial, though I don’t think she was ever hoping I’d last. Nor was I her biggest fan but I always respected her since she birthed the man I intend to marry.
Since the engagement, she’s been trying to interject her opinion everywhere she sees fit, which is, everywhere she can. She’s not a fan of the non traditional aspects and tries to get me to change my mind. FYI lady: I’m foreign, have 2 family members here, and your son doesn’t care about the planning. Also, she’s not giving us a dime, she told us “let me know where to show up”.
I made a decision to keep my dress a secret from everyone except my Maid/Matron of Honor an Mother. Well that went well..not. I even let her come to one dress shopping visit, a place she suggested, to be nice. I’ll be at work and she’s constantly sending me dresses for me, knowning I won’t like it..”I know it’s not your style but I love it”. So why are you sending me them?!
I could go on and on. It’s just so bothersome. It isn’t as if she has one child. It’s unfortunate that her other child, her only daughter, isn’t exactly where she should be in her life, but that doesn’t mean she should interject like she does. I’m the only child, I’ll be damned if I let her overstep.
Thanks for listening.
Post # 3
You’re handling it so well! It sounds like she’s trying to live through you. My FMIL had no ceremony or anything to her wedding, so she tries to do random things to help and give suggestions, usually getting quite pushy. I try to just smile and thank her and get very far away. Stick to your guns and stay strong to your ideas. 🙂
Post # 4
@MASPA: Your doing really well. I think you should continue to stick to your guns. I think your Fiance will have to step in sooner or later and have the talk with her though
Post # 5
Thanks ladies! I defintely am keeping my gloves ready, figuratively of course. However, my Fiance won’t step in. I try to include him but he doesn’t care too much. He relies on my latin blood to speak enough for the both of us,
Post # 6
I don’t know, I think it’s really nice that she’s interested and she’s reaching out to you in a way. Maybe that’s just her way. Have you thought about involving her in other ways, maybe a DYI project?
Remember, she’s not just “the woman who birthed” your Fiance, she’s his mother, and will continue to be always.
Post # 7
Oh God, nightmare lady!
Sounds like she just wants to help. And subliminally interject her opinions. I would just keep doing what you are doing and ignore her. If it gets worse, I would calmly approach her and tell her that you appreciate her help, and you will contact her if you need anything. Sounds like if you get upset she will go off.