(Closed) FMIL to MIL

posted 8 years ago in Married Life
  • poll: How does your MIL treat you now that you are married?
    We still get along great! : (17 votes)
    59 %
    What happened to that sweet lady? : (5 votes)
    17 %
    Didn't get along before and still don't. : (7 votes)
    24 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    1205 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2009

    I voted, but I don’t think there was a choice that really represents how I feel. I struggled a lot with my MIL because she has a very strong personality and I took some of her traits as overbearing. The longer we’ve known each other, though, it’s gotten a lot easier. I don’t know if our marriage had as much to do with it as just spending more time together.

    Post # 4
    Member
    3332 posts
    Sugar bee

    It doesn’t really fit the options of your poll, but my MIL and I got along great before we got engaged.  Once she became the official FMIL, she kinda went a little bonkers.  She got really passive-agressive and a little nutsy.  She’s chilled out a little since becoming MIL, so that’s good.  I think the wedding put a lot of stress on her (well, she put a lot of stress on herself), so I’m hoping she relaxes a little now that it’s done.

    Post # 5
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    883 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2009

    I have a loon for a MIL and she was a loon as my boyfriend’s mom, FMIL and still is! Ugh. For those of you clicking the “sweet and we get along great” box – BE THANKFUL!!

    Post # 6
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    14186 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    Once we hit the 3 year mark (about 6 months before DH popped the question) i noticed a change in the relationship. less strained, more accepting. I felt much more comfortable. Perhaps this was my finally accepting the fact that I would soon be part of his family too.

    All the changes since the wedding have been positive! Well since I moved to StL, in general. She calls me up to do lunch or dinner (even though hubs is 12 hours away) and today called to see if i wanted to meet up for lunch with her, her mom, her sister, and her niece since they were trying on MOB dresses (for the niece’s wedding) right down the street. I couldn’t, but it’s always nice to be included! When she talks to me about DH and I having kids, it’s always very respectful and she prefaces it by saying, “if you two decide to have a family” instead of just bugging us about when =]

    The big test will be how it all pans out when DH finally moves back to the city after bieng in the military for 4 years in november. it’ll be family overload for this girl but it’ll also be a nice experience and once the excitement of him finally being home wears off, we’ll settle into a routine. he fully understands that i am not expected to nor required to attend all these family lunchs/dinners/random get togethers as I work 40 hours a week and am in school part time if i have something of importance going on.

    Post # 7
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    80 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: March 2009

    I’m with you mdarrah!!! I’ve never gotten along with her and she’s actually been the root of the worst arguments between my husband and I. Be thankful if you have good in laws!!!!!!!

    Post # 8
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    275 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2009 - Harbison Chapel & The Maple Lane Farm

    She is still my FMIL, but it’s odd how I thought she was the nicest sweetest thing before the wedding planning, now I don’t get the support or caring that we’d been experiencing before. I hope things bounce back after the wedding. 

    Post # 9
    Member
    407 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    We aren’t best of friends, but we are definitely getting closer over the years.

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