(Closed) FMIL trouble

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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5892 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

so not cool.  this is so devious that i’m thinking maybe the salon somehow got confused and messed it up?  but maybe i’m just being optimistic cos that’s so horrible that anyone would do that on purpose!

Post # 3
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5892 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

so not cool.  this is so devious that i’m thinking maybe the salon somehow got confused and messed it up?  but maybe i’m just being optimistic cos that’s so horrible that anyone would do that on purpose!

Post # 4
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

WOW (hugs) I am so sorry that you are going through this. It’s good that your FI is willing to talk to her for you. I hope that she’s not doing anything to sabotage your day.

Post # 5
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572 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Holy crap.  The nerve of that woman!  That is one of the craziest things I’ve ever seen.

Don’t hold your breath to get an apology.  And don’t copy her on emails to everyone spilling your business…give her the minimum only if it involves her.  Also tell your salon that they should only listen to you when it comes to anything related to your appointment. 

If you are really worried, I would call all of your vendors to double check everything.  If you find out FMIL has done something, try to change it back.  If you can’t, then I would go on and on and on about how you love the flowers you picked out because they are your favorites, the flavor of the cake was just what you wanted, etc.  It just depends on how you want to handle it. 

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Well let her look like an idiot!  Her behavior will be a reflection of her, not you guys.  She doesn’t like your flowers? “Good thing it’s not your wedding, FMIL.” 

Post # 9
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950 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

@olivermasiello: wow…   I’m so sorry you have to deal with this kind of FMIL…but I have to ask, why isn’t your FI dealing with her for you both?  I’m glad that he confronted her about the appointment, but really, since it’s his mom, he should get her off your back.  Good luck with all your vendors & please keep us updated.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’d definitely confront her about it after the wedding. That’s ridiculous. She knew what she was doing and she was trying to be sneaky. I’d tell her you don’t appreciate her going behind your back and you’d like an apology.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I am with PP.. Why doesn’t your FI get her off your back? She seems insane.. you poor thing. Sounds like a movie.. reminds me of the one with Jane Fonda and Jennifer Lopez…

Do what she did get even then they became friends… Well I guess its high hopes you could work things out.. such a shame.. Why is she so crazy?

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Good lord. When one of my bridesmaids got married, her FMIL changed the location and menu for the rehearsal dinner (the DAY BEFORE the dinner…), and tried to change the menu for the reception itself. She also called a few other places and attempted to change things. My friend ended up calling every single vendor and informing them that changes were only to be made if she was the one calling. I’m so sorry that weddings seem to bring out the crazy.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

*Hugs*

I have a semi-crazy FMIL too and just wanted to let you know you’re not alone!

You’re so close to your wedding date, I would focus on the positive and deal with it after the wedding. But I wouldn’t let it go…

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

The only person putting your FI in the middle is your FMIL or himself.  You aren’t asking him to choose, here.  When you get married, your spouse becomes #1.  Does your FI think you are good enough for him?  I’m guessing yes because he is marrying you but maybe his moms opinion matters more than anyones and that would be a red flag.  Does he take his moms lack of approval and their change of relationship out on you? 

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