Post # 1
Today FI told me that his mom didn’t think she needed to be at the rehearsal since she wasn’t “doing” or “being” anything in the wedding. Uh you are the Mother of the Groom!!! I don’t know what she meant to say or if she was being passive aggresive because she feels like she is not included but I cannot believe she said that she doesn’t think she will be going to the rehearsal!
Post # 3
That is bizzare. I haven’t read any of your other posts but is this the first time she has given you problems?
I think it is absolutely up to FI to speak with her and figure this out.
Post # 4
Hmmm.. Well I think for sure the FI should talk to her and then if it’s still a problem maybe you shold have a MIL DIL heart to heart…
Are you having a formal ceremony b/c I thought that the Mother’s were supposed to be seated like right before the bridal party walks and they even do this to particular songs sometimes…. wouldn’t that be part of the rehearsal?
IDK we’re not doing a traditional formal ceremony but I’d still think my FMIL would be there….
Post # 5
She is the MOB. What else is there?
Post # 6
hmmmmm, I went to a wedding this summer where the MOB wasn’t at the rehearsal either b/c she was busy prepping stuff for the rehearsal dinner. SO I can kinda see where she is coming from, but it also sounds like she’s a little bitter.
Might be time for some light weight ego-stroking (I know ,cringe) if it’s important to you that she be there.
Post # 7
Doesn’t MOB mean mother of the bride? I think this is the mother of the groom.
Post # 8
Did she not want to be at the rehearsal dinner too? That is disappointing for sure. I would have your FI talk to her because maybe you’re right, maybe she is feeling left out or something.
Post # 9
Your FI said she doesn’t think, not she is not going to the rehearsal. Are you reading more into this than there is? Maybe you could invite her. Maybe she doesn’t realize it’s important to you to have her there. Maybe she doesn’t know it’s usual to have the MOG be at the rehearsal. I think a conversation would quickly clear this up.
Post # 10
Well IMO She said “I don’t think” because she wanted us to assure her that she needed to be there and that we wanted her to be there. I am having a formal ceremony in a Church and in our culture the groom’s mom and dad usually walk him down the aisle too. So she NEEDS to be there. She hasn’t been any help at all in anything, I try to include her and give her the details of the wedding but she seriously just looks at me with a blank stare. I know she thinks our ideas are a little “out there” which they really aren’t but shes a little bit old school. Not to mention the grooms parents are usually the ones to host the rehearsal dinner, and they never even offered so My parents and I are paying for it. I just feel like she feels excluded but I have done everything to include her she just doesn’t get most of what we want to do! It is so frustrating. Thanks for the hugs and advice bees 🙂
Post # 11
Gotcha. I love the idea of the groom’s mom and dad walking him down the aisle. Can your FI ask them to host the reception? Maybe they are so old school that this is what they expect and then they would step forward and become more involved. I understand why you are frustrated.