(Closed) FMIL vent!!!!

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

That is bizzare. I haven’t read any of your other posts but is this the first time she has given you problems?

I think it is absolutely up to FI to speak with her and figure this out.

Hugs !

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2011

Hmmm.. Well I think for sure the FI should talk to her and then if it’s still a problem maybe you shold have a MIL DIL heart to heart…

Are you having a formal ceremony b/c I thought that the Mother’s were supposed to be seated like right before the bridal party walks and they even do this to particular songs sometimes…. wouldn’t that be part of the rehearsal?

IDK we’re not doing a traditional formal ceremony but I’d still think my FMIL would be there….

Post # 5
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Sugar bee

She is the MOB. What else is there?

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

hmmmmm, I went to a wedding this summer where the MOB wasn’t at the rehearsal either b/c she was busy prepping stuff for the rehearsal dinner.  SO I can kinda see where she is coming from, but it also sounds like she’s a little bitter.

Might be time for some light weight ego-stroking (I know ,cringe) if it’s important to you that she be there. 

(((Jenny))))

Post # 7
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Doesn’t MOB mean mother of the bride? I think this is the mother of the groom.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Did she not want to be at the rehearsal dinner too? That is disappointing for sure. I would have your FI talk to her because maybe you’re right, maybe she is feeling left out or something.

Post # 9
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Busy bee

Your FI said she doesn’t think, not she is not going to the rehearsal.  Are you reading more into this than there is?  Maybe you could invite her. Maybe she doesn’t realize it’s important to you to have her there.  Maybe she doesn’t know it’s usual to have the MOG be at the rehearsal.  I think a conversation would quickly clear this up.

Post # 11
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Busy bee

Gotcha.  I love the idea of the groom’s mom and dad walking him down the aisle.  Can your FI ask them to host the reception?  Maybe they are so old school that this is what they expect and then they would step forward and become more involved.  I understand why you are frustrated.

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