Post # 1
My fiance aslways calls his mother a pessimist. I am starting to understand why. Last weekend we went to the Bridal show in town and took both our mothers. We were looking at decorating ideas, as well as vendors. I thought it would be kinda nice to add sashes to the chairs just to dress them up a bit. I also made a comment that a photo booth would be fun (but not on our budget).
A couple days ago, fiance was irritated with his mom; so I asked him why. He reluctantatly told me; His mother thinks that sashes are much to formal for the type of wedding we want and doesn’t understand why I would want them. And that a photo booth was tacky and wanted to know if we were trying to have a carnival. I simply said I thought they would be great fun; and a true reflection of us since we both love to take photos.
She is very sweet to me in person; I just dont’ want to be a wedge or source of stress between his mother and me.
I personally don’t think the sashes are (think white tulle bows on brown chairs) fine and not formal by any means. And if you want to get technical; it is an evening affair so I can tip toe on dressy causal without being formal in my opinon any ways.
Post # 3
I think both of those would add nice touches to your wedding. She does sound like a bit of a Debby Downer
Post # 4
You know some people just like to complain. Like a hobby. I wouldn’t worry about it driving a wedge. It sounds like my grandma, if it’s raining it’s far too cold and wet, if it’s sunny it’s far too bright and warm. 🙂
Post # 5
The sashes and photo booth may be things she’s not aware happen often in weddings. I got that thought when she indicated the photo booth would be like a carnival. To be honest, a lot of people have their opinions on what they think a wedding should be. You and your FI could stop sharing your ideas with her if you think she’ll make more comments that you don’t like. Or if you’d still like her involved, you can show her pictures and so of how certain things are incorporated into weddings and how great it works. I’ve had a lot worse complained about with ideas FI and I had for our wedding in regard to his side. It wasn’t pretty. I wouldn’t take it serious though.
Post # 6
I wouldn’t worry about it too much. I agree with pp who advised not sharing so many ideas…When we were first planning our wedding I mentioned a few things to my FMIL, thinking how wonderful it will be to share this with her – and she began suggesting tons of stuff that she thought was a great idea (that FI and I didn’t like!) and disagreeing with ideas we had, saying that she didn’t think that was right etc etc I learnt to be very selective about what I talked about!
People will always have ideas and want to share them and especially mothers!!! I don’t think that it will drive a wedge between you at all. Just handle it calmly.
Remember it is yours and FI wedding day – make your own choices. I am sure she will think it was a beautiful day, whatever your decoration and entertainment!