Post # 1
Has anyone’s FMIL strongly indicated she wants to go on your bachelorette trip/party? How did you deal with it?
My FMIL wants to come along. But she doesn’t drink at all. It really bothers her, I think. And she’s pretty proper.
I’m not wild and crazy, but there will be drinking that weekend, and probably the usual bachelorette party paraphernalia as well. I don’t want strippers or anything either.
However, I’m worried that our drinking and not-so-ladylike behavior is going to bother her.
I’m really not sure what to do. I don’t want to hurt her feelings (she’s very sweet), but I also don’t want to be worrying about her the whole weekend, or worrying about acting proper. . .
Post # 3
Is your mom going? If not, I think it would be weird if she was the only mom there. If she’s just hinting and not coming out and asking to go, I would probably just pretend not to notice, and maybe tell her some things about it that would make her not want to go.
Post # 4
“FMIL, I’m so happy you’re excited about the wedding, but I really don’t think you’d want to go to the bachelorette party – BMs are planning it and I think we’ll just be bar-hopping for the most part, which I know isn’t really something you like, my mom wouldn’t want to come either. But I’m sooo looking forward to *insert something she is invited to here*.”
Post # 5
Maybe plan a more subdued bachelorette party with both of your mothers. Go out of town shopping and stay in a nice hotel or something. I wouldn’t necessarily mind if FI’s mom wanted to come IF she was in the same frame of mind as everyone (with regard to drinking, novelty items, etc.) If you don’t think she would fit the mold, which is what it sounds like, then I would recommend some other sort of weekend with her and wiggle your way out of having her at this bachelorette party. What does your FI say?
Post # 6
@milesbella: totally agree!!
Post # 7
Yea, my mom will be attending. But, my mom honestly would probably be the wildest one there. My aunt will be there too, so I’m hoping the three of them would hang out together, and let the rest of us sneak away for a night on the town.