Post # 1
I have no idea what to do or what she means? I guess where she’s from there’s the wedding, the dinner and the party and it’s common to invite people to the party but not the rest (she’s from a very rural area).
We aren’t having this type of wedding, as of yet they’re not contributing to the costs, and we’re not inviting extended fmaily beyond aunts/uncles/first cousins (and their children if applicable). How do I deal wtih this?
Post # 3
Tell her that you’re not comfortable with only inviting people to the reception/after dinner and leave it at that.
Post # 4
@vorpalette: FH agrees that we can’t do what she’s asking, we just don’t know how to tell her – she gets offended very easily and when she’s offended she’s a very nasty mama bear
Post # 5
@MsGinkgo: I think you guys are going to have to get over your fear of her reaction and be firm. I’d probably have your FI do this, because it’s his mother.
“FMIL, we understand that this is what you want to do, but we are not having that type of wedding, and are not comfortable with it. There will be no further discussion.”
Post # 6
@vorpalette: +1, great advice as usual