FMIL wants to wear a prom dress.

posted 3 years ago in Family
  • poll: What do you think of these dresses?
    The blue one is ok for the MOG to wear. : (10 votes)
    4 %
    The purple one is ok for the MOG to wear. : (76 votes)
    33 %
    The blue on is NOT ok for the MOG to wear. : (53 votes)
    23 %
    The purple in is NOT ok for the MOG to wear. : (13 votes)
    6 %
    Just let her wear what she wants. : (32 votes)
    14 %
    Guide her in a more age/event appropriate direction. : (48 votes)
    21 %
  • Post # 3
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    5518 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 2012

    I think #2 is far superior dress than #1.  I agree she should have her own color too.  Something that compliments but doesnt blend.  I’d tell her she should have a different color so she can stand out more

    Post # 4
    Member
    1902 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    Why don’t you offer to go shopping with her and suggest something more age appropriate?

    Post # 5
    Member
    975 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2014 - Banff, Alberta

    I think the green one is classier than the other, but still pretty young. The purple one is very childish why would she want to wear that?

    Post # 7
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    1902 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    I tried to make a suggestion to my MIL, letting her know that my mother was wearing a traditional MOB dress with a jacket, but she bought a tacky purple beaded cocktail dress with a handkerchief hem.  She was the one that looked silly at the end of the day.

    Post # 8
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    260 posts
    Helper bee

    I think #2 could be acceptable, maybe with a shawl or a stole of some kind… 

    #1 is way too young and sexy…

    I wouldn’t think it’s a huge deal if she wore a similar colour to your BMs, she won’t be in the pictures with just you and your bridal party.

    Post # 9
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    1802 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I think the blue one is inappropriate for anyone older than like 21. The purple one is nice, but it could definitely be made more appropriate by adding a little shawl or jacket. Ask her if she will be willing to do that? I agree that she should be in a different color that compliments the color scheme of your wedding party. Maybe silver?

    Post # 10
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    15 posts
    Newbee

    Wow! I’m curious to know how old she is…

     

    Between the two, I’d pick #2 for a MIL. It may look even better with a shall or warp around the shoulders too. #1 is definitely too young and sexy…then again maybe that’s what she’s going for. 

    Post # 11
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    2687 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 1996

    @SneakyBee:  I voted let her wear what she wants, but maybe when you go shopping you could ask a salesperson to suggest a few styles she thinks would look good on FMIL? If you could add in a whisper to the salesperson that you’d love FMIL to wear something that DOESN’T look like a prom dress, that might help.

    Post # 12
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    493 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    Ok, convention dictates that those are not MOB dresses, BUT I have to say… if I had a kid old enough to be getting married and I thought I could plausibly pull off that first dress, I would be tempted as hell. 

    Post # 14
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    8518 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2014

    I actually really like the purple one! I think if she had a shawl or something it could look really nice. I wouldnt mind if my mom wore it.

    Post # 15
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    1463 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Hey call me old fashioned but I think #1 is inappropriate.  It’s too revealing and not age appropriate.  #2 is better, but it would look more elegant with a wrap or shawl.

    Post # 16
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    220 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    I totally agree with everyone who has said that the first one is not appropriate but that the second one could work.  

    I’ve had some long thoughts about the color thing because my mom told my MOH early on that she wanted to match her, which I do NOT want!  So, I’ve made sure to include “extra” colors in my wedding colors when I talk to her.  My main colors are coral and light green (which my MOH is wearning), but I’ve included accent colors in my list – dark green, beige, black – so that when she wears one of these colors she still feels like she matches and looks like part of the wedding.  It’s a plus for me because she’ll coordinate well, but it really makes her feel included.

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