FMIL Wants to wear Purple

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 2
588 posts
Busy bee

Does she have a particular shade in mind? I could see it being a little weird if she matched the BMs exactly, but how likely is that, really? I don’t see why you shouldn’t “let” her wear what she wants.

Post # 4
453 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Those are my colors too. I just told the moms they can wear any color but med/dark purple but lavender was fine or any shade of pinks or greys. 

Post # 5
2800 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014


MrsSherifftoBe:  Don’t worry about it.  My wedding color is royal blue.  My bridesmaids are wearing Royal blue and black dresses.  My mom is wearing a royal blue jacket/shirt with a black skirt.  It doesn’t look like she is trying to be a bridesmaid.  It will all look nice and cordinated together.  And there will be maybe 2 pictures with my mom and any bridesmaid (and those will be my FSIL)

Post # 6
951 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014


MrsSherifftoBe:  My FMIL originally wanted to wear dark purple and my BMs are in plum.  I didn’t mind but I did make sure she knew, too.  It went something like “Just so you know, the bridemsaids are wearing dark purple dresses.  If that makes any difference.”  She immediately changed her shade of purple because SHE didn’t want to match them.  I wouldn’t have cared – they won’t be in any of the same photos.

Post # 7
2286 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Adults don’t need to be told how to dress, I doubt anyone will mistake your FMIL for a BM. I’d let her wear whatever she wants in any color she wants.

Post # 8
858 posts
Busy bee

I would say let her. She is the FMIL and that is a pretty big role! If it is bothering you, I would tell her you dont mind however, if she could void eggplant.

Post # 9
9526 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

On the scale of things worth worrying about where 1 is the death of the minister the day before the wedding and 10 is the font on the menu cards, I’d give this a 9. Maybe an 8. Not worth stressing about or causing drama. Let her wear what she wants. 

Post # 10
423 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2016 - Our Castle


MrsSherifftoBe:  Thats exactly right, you may be able to get her in a colour that compliments the BM rather then matching it.. use it as bonding time. Im lucky my FMIL loves purple and im not using that colour for that exact reason.. 🙂 Have fun as your gaining another mum!

Post # 11
3653 posts
Sugar bee

My mother in law was told that my daughter’s bridesmaids were wearing eggplant. So what does she do? She gets a gown in dark purple. It wasn’t as dark as the bridesmaids, but she was the only one there in a dark purple gown, other than the bridesmaids. (It was even on the website what the ladies were wearing, in case anyone wanted to avoid it – not that it was a rule).

As it ended up, she wasn’t in any of the group photos before the ceremony, because she wanted to take a nap. ARGH!!!

Post # 12
8680 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

I think a pretty lavender or even a light purple/grey color would be great.

Nobody will mistake her for a bridesmaid.

Post # 13
4827 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

I actually think it looks good when moms match the BMs.

Post # 14
7055 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

MrsSherifftoBe:  Trust me, no one is going to mistake your FMIL for a bridesmaid. 

Let her wear what she’s happiest in.

Post # 15
2196 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

lealorali:  +1 I agree. I never really understood why people made a big deal out of it

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