Post # 1
I just recently joined, but I wanted to throw this out there to ask. MY FMIL has mentioned to me that she wants to wear purple. She has known from the very beginning that my brodesmaids are in Eggplant Purple. It’s definitely not in spite, I believe it’s because it is her mother’s favorite color (who may/may not attend). I also have not said anything because I’m not sure how I feel about it. I don’t want to make a big deal out of it if I don’t have to, but I don’t necessarily want her matching my BMs.
Should I just let her and not worry about it?
Post # 2
Does she have a particular shade in mind? I could see it being a little weird if she matched the BMs exactly, but how likely is that, really? I don’t see why you shouldn’t “let” her wear what she wants.
Post # 3
No shade in particular. I told her I would take her dress shopping, as my fiance is her only son, I thought it only fair. So I was going to use that time to point her in the direction of not the same color.
Post # 4
Those are my colors too. I just told the moms they can wear any color but med/dark purple but lavender was fine or any shade of pinks or greys.
Post # 5
MrsSherifftoBe: Don’t worry about it. My wedding color is royal blue. My bridesmaids are wearing Royal blue and black dresses. My mom is wearing a royal blue jacket/shirt with a black skirt. It doesn’t look like she is trying to be a bridesmaid. It will all look nice and cordinated together. And there will be maybe 2 pictures with my mom and any bridesmaid (and those will be my FSIL)
Post # 6
MrsSherifftoBe: My FMIL originally wanted to wear dark purple and my BMs are in plum. I didn’t mind but I did make sure she knew, too. It went something like “Just so you know, the bridemsaids are wearing dark purple dresses. If that makes any difference.” She immediately changed her shade of purple because SHE didn’t want to match them. I wouldn’t have cared – they won’t be in any of the same photos.
Post # 7
Adults don’t need to be told how to dress, I doubt anyone will mistake your FMIL for a BM. I’d let her wear whatever she wants in any color she wants.
Post # 8
I would say let her. She is the FMIL and that is a pretty big role! If it is bothering you, I would tell her you dont mind however, if she could void eggplant.
Post # 9
On the scale of things worth worrying about where 1 is the death of the minister the day before the wedding and 10 is the font on the menu cards, I’d give this a 9. Maybe an 8. Not worth stressing about or causing drama. Let her wear what she wants.
Post # 10
- Wedding: September 2016 - Our Castle
MrsSherifftoBe: Thats exactly right, you may be able to get her in a colour that compliments the BM rather then matching it.. use it as bonding time. Im lucky my FMIL loves purple and im not using that colour for that exact reason.. 🙂 Have fun as your gaining another mum!
Post # 11
My mother in law was told that my daughter’s bridesmaids were wearing eggplant. So what does she do? She gets a gown in dark purple. It wasn’t as dark as the bridesmaids, but she was the only one there in a dark purple gown, other than the bridesmaids. (It was even on the website what the ladies were wearing, in case anyone wanted to avoid it – not that it was a rule).
As it ended up, she wasn’t in any of the group photos before the ceremony, because she wanted to take a nap. ARGH!!!
Post # 12
I think a pretty lavender or even a light purple/grey color would be great.
Nobody will mistake her for a bridesmaid.
Post # 13
- Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY
I actually think it looks good when moms match the BMs.
Post # 14
MrsSherifftoBe: Trust me, no one is going to mistake your FMIL for a bridesmaid.
Let her wear what she’s happiest in.
Post # 15
lealorali: +1 I agree. I never really understood why people made a big deal out of it