Post # 1
Our wedding is in 6 weeks. My FMIL has finally purchased a dress (or some sort of suit, I’m not really sure what it is exactly…). Just out of curiosity, I asked her what color it was.
“White with black pinstripes and little flowers.”
Now, I don’t mean to be a drama queen, but I’d prefer if the mother-of-the-groom did not wear any semblance of white to our wedding. What makes matters worse, is that my bridesmaid dresses are pewter (light grey). So even if her dress comes off looking more of a grey because of the pinstripes, then she’ll be wearing the same color as my bridesmaids!
Has anyone seen anything that might match the color description she gave me? Do you think it will be alright?
Post # 3
It may be OK depending on how it looks. Ask her to let you see what she bought. “I would LOVE to see what you will be wearing for our wedding!”…you know…butter her up…LOL. Then if you don’t feel it’s appropriate, don’t tell her, just make it about her comfort. Tell her she may get hot wearing it, or something like that. First things first though….find a way to see the dress without making it known you might not want her to wear it.
Post # 4
I personally don’t think it’s a problem. Wouldn’t you rather she match the BMs than clash or wear something completely inappropriate?
Post # 5
I haven’t seen a white suit with black pin stripes but I’m hoping the pinstripes are kinda thick. If so, it’ll be fine. Even if they’re thin lines, considering its a suit, I’m sure it will still be fine. It won’t look like she’s trying to be bride-y.
Post # 6
Honestly, I don’t think it will be a problem. It sounds like it’s a little more patterned than anything, so that will help set it apart. Plus, if it’s a suit-type outfit, she’ll definitely look much different than your BMs. (Your girls will have feminine dresses on… *and* be 40 years younger.) Even if your FMIL’s outfit is more white than not, you’re still going to be the prettiest girl in the room, no question!
Post # 7
There is no graceful way to tell her she can’t wear what she has purchased. I wouldn’t worry about it, no one is going to notice her anyway.
Post # 8
Funny, My FI’s grandmother asked me what color the bridesmaid dresses are so that she could buy a dress in the same color. She said that’s tradition. I’m OK with it, though I told her to wear whatever she wants and NOT to buy a special dress just for the wedding.
I would ask to see the dress and make a decision there. It doesn’t sound like there’s too much white in the dress from the description.
Post # 9
I’d imagine it’s pretty summery. I’d say just let it go – even though it’s it’s not preferable. Unless it’s white satin you’ll probably be okay.
My FMIL asked me about my colors so she could dress to match.
Since I’m not having a wedding party, I gave her a list (Navy, Pink, Plum, Gold) that I thought everyone in the family could wear so they’d match in group pictures.
She ended up buying an EMERALD green dress (which BTW she said came in a pink that matched my invites – but it they didn’t have her size). I had no idea what to say. I laugh every time I think about it because she specifically asked me and then bought something completely different. I don’t care what she wears but I just think it’s funny.
Post # 10
As long as its not a long white dress with a veil, i wouldn’t really worry about it.
Post # 11
I’m definitely not going to say anything about it and I’m trying not to worry about it. I guess it just struck me as odd that with ALLLLLL the colors there are out there, that she would pick white.
Post # 12
Yea, you would have to pick your battles on this one. I think I would have a better idea if I could see the dress but I dont think it will be too bad. I know what you mean about iot being so close to white, but at the same time, you want her to look nice. After all, she is a reflection on you!