- 6 years ago
FMIL has a friend K, who one minute she acts like she is her best friend, the next minute she is saying how frustrating/annoying/embarassing K is. FI and K have never gotten along, I will not go into details about how K has tried to ruin FI and his mothers relationship.
It has been known that FI does not care for this woman. Long before FI and I were even engaged he made his mother well aware that K would never be invited to his wedding. Honestly he owes her nothing. She is a neighbour to his mother.
We get engaged (Aug 28th 2011) and here it comes. FMIL demanding that K be invited to the wedding. FI firmly told her ‘no’ it isn’t happening. This woman ruins everything and FI cannot stand to be in the same room with her, without a screaming match insuing. As time would go on, things would be okay for a while and then FMIL would start trying to manipulate FI into inviting K, mainly by crying and having hissy fits. FFIL stands behind FMIL and I stand firmly behind FI.
What does FMIL do now? She invited K to EVERY wedding occasion that has happened, both engagements parties and my bridal shower. This woman thinks that she is being invited to the wedding. Again FI tells his mother no, and ‘apparently’ she explains to K that we are on a tight budget (which we are) and that the wedding will consist of only family and very close friends (again true) and we thought that it was over.
I should add that FI, and myself along with my parents are paying for the wedding FI’s parents promised us a monetary gift before the big day to help us out, well we are two months out and there is no sight of it. We gave each parent the opportunity to invite one of their friends along with a guest. FMIL chose and friend from work not K!
The invitations went out last week and just yesterday FMIL cornered FI again crying and ranting about how FI is ruining her friendship with K because we are not inviting her. I was not there, I am stuck at home with the flu which is probably a good thing since I’m ready to put this to rest.
Poor FI came home so frstrated and upset. He doesn’t know what to do, if he invites K he is going to have an overly angry Fiancee, if he doesn’t invite her, his mother is never going to forgive him.
I know people are thinking why not just invite her and suck up our pride. We have told FMIL again and again and again that we were nto ivniting her. We have already cut good friend and some family members because we simply do not have the room. We are at capacity for our venue (I know that some RSVPs will come back no), but we do not want to invite anyone else. We are done with this. I have already given into so many things that I DO NOT WANT because FMIL says that is how we just have to do it!
I don’t know what I’m looking for here. I suppose I need to rant, and need a little support.