- 8 years ago
- Wedding: May 2010
hello hive! I have never written a post before but I think this situation calls for one. We are having a destination wedding on Anna Maria Island in May. We booked our venue about 10 months in advance and we couldnt really decide what to do for a rehearsal dinner. We knew we probably weren’t going to have a rehearsal since we are having a simple ceremony done by a friend of the family, but we knew we would want to do some kind of open house, cocktail hour, welcome party for the night before the wedding. My FMIL offered to take care of the rehearsal dinner. 90% of the wedding is being paid for by FI and me so it was nice for her to offer.
We asked her a few questions now and then on what she was thinking, but for the most part we just left it up to her. My FI wanted to leave the ball in her park, bc after having 3 older sisters get married she felt a little left out with her son getting married. She never could figure out where she fit in in the planning process.
Now we are 5 and a half weeks from the wedding and we still have nothing planned for the welcome reception. We saw my FMIL over the Easter holiday and she said she was hoping to have the party at her rented house in Anna Maria. Unfortunately this isnt going to work as the rentals have strict policies on parties and get togethers in the rental houses.
Her plan is to now exclude a good portion of our guests who are coming – including most of her ex-husbands family and siblings. The FMIL and FFIL are divorced and have a bit of a contenious relationship. She wants to just have this smaller group of people (only wedding party and immediate family) at her home and leave everyone else to fend for themselves.
FI called his mom today to tell her that her plan isn’t going to work and that we needed to find a place where ALL of our guests (50 ppl) could get together. And that as these people have made the trip from NYS to FL to celebrate with us that we are going to take care of them. Her response? “If thats what you want, I don’t want to ruin your plans” Our plans?? She said she was going to handle it? She was supposed to be planning it!
At a loss for how to move forward. Do we just go ahead and plan it without her input?