(Closed) FMIL's comment re: cheating: "if it makes you happy"

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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3569 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I don’t know what to read into her statement although it’s an weird sitution so she might have just said that out of awkwardness. It seems like in the moment statement and I don’t know what if anything you should read into that statement.If your Fi decides to cheat it will be his choice and you can’t blame his mother for that because no amount of engcouragement could convince him to cheat if he didn’t intend on it in the first place.

As for this lady bring her lover to your wedding I so agree you should make it clear that she isn’t allowed to do do that.

Post # 4
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1041 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I’m wondering whether your FMIL is just merely keeping out of her friend’s private choices despite not agreeing with them. Sometimes people will do what they do for whatever reasons they have and the people around them either accept it or move on. Maybe she’s just quietly accepting it because she has no other choice and therefore also wants to brush it off when talking to others about it? I’d like to think she’d be more emotionally invested if it was her son in the same situation, though. Her friend’s choices are not her responsibility, but I’m sure she’d be more concerned with making sure as much as possible that the son she raised is respectful in his relationship.

As for not inviting the married man, that is totally up to the two of you.

Post # 5
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1093 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I agree with PPs. It sounds like your FMIL was trying not to speak badly about her friend. If she had raised her son to cheat if it made him happy, I’m sure you would have seen signs of that by now.

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