FMILs friend thinks she is getting invitation

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
Hostess
7630 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

I would ask FMIL to apologize. She’s the one who led the friend to believe that she was getting invited, right? 

Post # 5
Member
1931 posts
Buzzing bee

Don’t send the invitation and have your FMIL handle it when she questions why she didn’t get one. It’s her problem, not yours. Either way, she’s not invited. Do NOT back down or your FMIL might make the same “slip up” again. 

Post # 6
Member
42538 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@JacobsMama:  Have your FI tell his Mom to clarify this now so the ex- neighbor doesn’t start buying a dress etc.

Post # 7
Member
546 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

Just don’t send the invite…if your MIL confront you tell her that you discussed it with her (even better if you send your FI to resolve this with his own mom)..if this friend of your MIL confronts you ever..just remind her your MIL phone number..and let these ladies discuss the issue…There is no reason for you to feel uncomfortable..

Post # 8
Member
6964 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@JacobsMama:  The person lives across the country, so you won’t be running into her. It is not your problem- it’s your FMIL’s. Don’t send an invite and you are by no means obligated to explain anything to her. 

Post # 9
Member
830 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@JacobsMama:  At the risk of sounding blunt, I’m just going to say don’t invite the neighbour. It’s your FMIL’s problem if they get upset about not receiving an invitation – she’s the one who gave them that impression in the first place, not you.

I’ve had experience with this – my own mother isn’t paying for our wedding but wants to invite God knows who and has already told them that we planned to get married next year. I’m just going to smile and send my invites to who we actually want to have there and be done with it. Sorry Mum, I love you, but NO!

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