Post # 1
Ok, so Fiance and I have been together for 6 yrs (engaged 1 at wedding time). She lives close to use in NYC and is pretty much a snob. I feel like the entire time we have been together I have been overly nice, sweet, accomodating etc. Now that the wedding is coming up she hasn’t been that hands on, but has her opinions. Fiance just got his ring yesterday and the suit he is wearing.
We have both been working like crazy, or wedding planning like crazy (ahem, me). So we have basically let our apt get pretty messy. She told Fiance that she wanted to stop by today to see his ring and suit. Meanwhile, I was at work and he just got back in town. When he told me this I pictured the dishes in the sink (NYC dishwashers are hard to come by), my hair all over the bathroom floor, dirty counters, and hardwood floors .He said “ok” and didnt clean a thing. So, during the meeting she was horrified and started to try to clean things and talk about how dirty the place was. etc. When I heard about all of this my first reaction was ” F IT.” I do not care. I would have cared 3 days ago, or thought that she would think I was going to be a bad wife or something. Now after all of this wedding stuff and knowing she will be around forever. I could care less about what she thinks.
WHAT DO YOU THINK ABOUT YOURS? AND OTHER STORIES ARE WELCOME!!
Post # 3
I can’t stand my FMIL! She wrote my Fiance that he shouldn’t date me before she ever met me. She is a religious fanatic who lost her husband to cancer, so it’s understandable that she is having a hard time, but she won’t allow my Fiance to hold my hand in her prescence. She got upset when we posted a picture on facebook of me kissing him on the cheek and demanded we take it down. She’s wacko!
Post # 4
We don’t get along much…. From the beginning she’s told my Fiance that she didn’t agree with him picking me, She’s gossiped about me with my Future Sister-In-Law, and has TWICE brought up another girl that my Fiance had once showed intrest in (she brought this up just a couple of weeks ago).. and this is just skimming the surface
I’ve tried to be cordial and like her even.. even invited her to a weekly bible study at our house
BUT… it seems that no matter what I do her full approval of me has not been accomplished so for now it’s just dealing the best I can. =(
Post # 5
Wow. I love my Future Mother-In-Law. She is so sweet. Never has a frown. BUT there is a small problem. Sometimes she asks him for money to pay her bills. I still love her though because man she is soooo sweet.
Post # 6
Sucks for everyone not getting along with their Future Mother-In-Law. Mine is a sweetheart that everyone takes advantage of (i.e. FBIL). I love her and she genuinely cares for me. I know she loves me much more than any of fiance’s former flames. She packed me lunches when I visit her during the weekdays. =) She’s an awesome cook and I hope to learn how to cook from her one of these days.
Post # 7
One of the best parts of my first marriage was my Mother-In-Law. We remained close even after the divorce.
The vast majority of women end up as MILs at some point. So there is as much variation among them as there is among women generally.
Post # 8
Future Mother-In-Law is wonderful. I’m definitely her favorite of all the girls my Boyfriend or Best Friend has dated, so she was THRILLED when we got back together after four and a half years. She’s really laid back but also very quirky, and she’s a successful businesswoman as well as a mother of three. I hope I’m as cool as she is when I’m her age! Also, she paid for the BF’s trip to visit me in Japan, so I have to like her for that!
Post # 9
My Future Mother-In-Law is great! FH is an only child and I dont think he has any girl cousins so Future Mother-In-Law buys me tons of stuff for xmas ( i think she likes she has a girl to shop for!) She is wicket sweet and nice and always gives FH money when we visit!
Post # 10
I LOVE my Future Mother-In-Law…I think I get along better with her then I do with my actual mother. She is so happy for FH and I and is willing to help but not imposing. I had sent her a text message asking her if she wanted to go dress shopping with me and my friends (my mother lives 500 miles away) and her response was “OMG of course! You just tell me when and I’m there!”
Post # 11
I live next door to my Future Mother-In-Law. 😉
She’s great, honestly. It’s kind of annoying because my fiance is over there a lot (I may see his parents once a week). BUT…
She has not offered any wedding help. She does live next door, where as my mom is 30 miles away. She thinks weddings are a waste of money, I’m suspecting, because she had a quickie courthouse wedding. She thinks we should put money in a savings account instead of throwing a wedding Since my fiance is his mother’s son, he sort of has the same mentality about it. But he wants to make me happy, so he’s on board. It makes me sad that I feel like I can’t discuss the wedding with her. As soon as she found out we were engaged she told us to “go away” and get married. Yeah…
But besides wedding business, we do get along pretty well.
Post # 12
I get along ok with Future Mother-In-Law but she can be really annoying sometimes. She is super controlling and wedding planning has been very stressful at times because of her. At the same time she is also very caring and generous – she is using her annual bonus to pay for almost our entire wedding! She is very happy for Fiance and I and I know that she cares about me. She can be kind of crazy sometimes though!
Post # 13
I adore my Mother-In-Law. She’s a smart, caring, driven individual who at first was pretty upset about our engagement, but a few months afterward apologized and told me it had nothing to do with me.
She picked out my wedding dress, cleaned up my cake tornado while I was making our wedding cake, she helped me plan and make decisions for the wedding, threw me a bridal shower AND hosted our rehearsal dinner (including driving the food here from her home 4 hours away). Since the wedding she has helped us install our hardwood floors, came down to organize my kitchen, and most recently last weekend was here to organize my garage (I’m a creative person and can’t organize no matter how hard I try)….
She makes my life better. She’s never had a negative thing to say about me and has always been encouraging. She’s the kind of mother I hope that I am (except my kids will do the dishes…my husband never did chores and his 21-year-old sister still lives at home and has never done her own laundry or cooked her own meal)…
Out of all of my in-laws, she’s my favorite. My father-in-law is a whole other story! He drives me insane!!!
I have to say that I’m pretty lucky. I have an awesome family and so does my husband. It’s makes the holidays a little stressful with all the travel, but I wouldn’t have it any other way. One of the reasons I love my husband so much is because who he has become because of his family.
Post # 14
Hmm.. that’s tough. Sounds like an Everybody Loves Raymond scenario almost. Since she’s so close she can be more involved in your lives which is good and bad. And our apartment was a total tornado as the wedding was approaching. We were never home or totally exhausted, it was also a really busy time at work for both of us. So no judgement here on the messy apartment! And we feel VERY lucky to have a dishwasher in NYC..
I do love my Mother-In-Law. We aren’t best friends, but we get along really well and both have the best intentions for Darling Husband which is what bonds us. I think we’re different, but we accept each others differences because we have the same values. Also, I probably only see her like 2 or 3 times a year since she is several states away..
Post # 15
Mine is a very sweet and giving person! I wouldn’t say we are “close,” despite seeing each other often, but she is very nice!
Post # 16
My Future Mother-In-Law is a sweetheart but crazy. She has 2 boys, 1 daughter in law that she doesn’t get a long with (because she’s crazy). Then there is me. She has always wanted a daughter, so she’s absolutely smothering me anymore. It’s driving me NUTS! She has a huge heart, but and i try to get a long with her because of Fiance, but i don’t know how much more i can take of it. She’s overly nice to the point at times she come off fake, she has no backbone and never speaks her mind. I’m the complete opposit my mom raised me to be strong and independent. I do my best to get along with her but it’s defn. trying at times. Plus she still sends Fiance messages (yesterday it was, I love you with all my heart baby) or hangs all over him when she see’s him. I would like to say, BACK off lady he’s MINE!!