Post # 1
She responds with “We’ll see.” WTF kind of response is that? My mom and I asked if FMIL and FSIL would like to go to lunch(separate checks of course). They take us up on our offer and we have lunch, the FMIL doesn’t talk much, and if she does it doesn’t make sense. We believe (mom is a psych nurse) that she may have early signs of dementia, but she’s just pure nastiness.
It was pleasant enough, so when I question her, that was her response. So I delve further, “We’ll see about what?” She just responds again “We’ll see.” We’ll see if he decides to walk down the aisle? We’ll see if I’m excited?
I called FI very upset later on and told him that he needs to set his mother and sister straight, with me present, so they just don’t present their side of the story. He’s like, “It only matter what you and I think” He is at a conference and had his friends/coworkers get on the phone and tell me how happy they are that we’re getting married. That made me feel good. But it’s a little upsetting, with one week out til the wedding that they’re acting like idiots. I know that his sister is close with his ex,they’re friends on FB(however, FI is not). I’m not going to be his ex and she needs to stop with her damn drama..
sorry this is such a long rant.
Post # 3
I’m sorry you’re upset, but I might let this one go. Do you generally have a good relationship with his mother and FSIL? If so, maybe she was just having an off day or something or maybe something is going on in her personal life that you don’t know about. I wouldn’t let this ruin your happiness because your FI is right, it really only matters that the two of you are excited. Just think, in one week you’ll be a married lady!!!
Post # 4
My advice — and the plan I am goin to follow: stay away from everyone the week before you wedding. Don’t talk on the phone to anyone too much, don’t try to get together wil a lot of people, don’t send too many emails or texts. If anyone close to you hears other people saying things, ask then NOT to tell you before the wedding. People will start to bother you and wind up saying stupid things and you will be upset.
Post # 5
Just accept that no one is excited as the two of you. It may be true…it may not…but don’t go fishing or else you end up dissapointed (like you are now). FI & me only ask each other “are you excited”? Because, the truth is, as long as WE show up (ok, and the officiant and someone to be a witness ) the wedding will happen regardless of who else is there, not there, uninspired, etc.
Now…be happy! You’re getting married!!!!
Post # 6
That was the response I got from my FMIL but we’ve had issues from the start (when FI and I were merely friends) and still have them regularly =(.. Hopefully yours was just from “shell shock” 😉
Post # 7
Just let it roll of your back. She is probably having all kinds of emotions going on and it’s not worth your energy worrying about her. Your FI is 100% right, it’s about the two of you.
Post # 8
I didn’t realize your wedding was so close (my little one kinda distracted me towards the end)
I would defintiely focus on your FH BUT… If this is the way ya’lls relationship is/usually is then it is His place to take your side and set a level of respect for you through his family.
Otherwise do NOT let her mess up ya’ll’s day! =)
Post # 9
east coast bride has great advice. Everyone is a little stressed and nutty the week before a wedding–probably yourself included. You mentioned that she may have some serious medical issues as well. Don’t take it personally. If she does act wacky at the wedding, then it is either a reflection on her (not you) or she really needs to see a medical professional.
Post # 10
I’m so sorry you have to deal with such horrible behavior right before your day. Things got a little crazy between my family too and it’s best to just ignore it and enjoy the last few days of anticipation. Don’t let them get to you! As long as YOU’RE excited to marry the man you love forget their comments. It’s about you guys, not them!
Post # 11
We are definitely not best friends. FMIL is a bit odd, not a talkative character and likes to say nasty things, when no one else is around, then denies it. FSIL is very flighty and is all over the place. FMIL and FSIL do not have a close relationship like my mom and I do. When we went to lunch yesterday, I asked the FMIL and FSIL do they like to lunch together, neither one of them answered.
Post # 12
Thanks ladies, I appreciate the support. I am one to always be respectful, but if you intentionally say things, to get me riled up, I’m bound to say something to someone. I will be happy on my day and so will FH. Him and I are all that matters and THANK GOD they’re not coming on the trip with us (We’re having a cruise ship wedding). I love this board!