(Closed) FMIL’s response to “Are you excited?”

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’m sorry you’re upset, but I might let this one go. Do you generally have a good relationship with his mother and FSIL? If so, maybe she was just having an off day or something or maybe something is going on in her personal life that you don’t know about. I wouldn’t let this ruin your happiness because your FI is right, it really only matters that the two of you are excited. Just think, in one week you’ll be a married lady!!!

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

My advice — and the plan I am goin to follow: stay away from everyone the week before you wedding. Don’t talk on the phone to anyone too much, don’t try to get together wil a lot of people, don’t send too many emails or texts. If anyone close to you hears other people saying things, ask then NOT to tell you before the wedding. People will start to bother you and wind up saying stupid things and you will be upset.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Just accept that no one is excited as the two of you. It may be true…it may not…but don’t go fishing or else you end up dissapointed (like you are now). FI & me only ask each other “are you excited”? Because, the truth is, as long as WE show up (ok, and the officiant and someone to be a witness Wink) the wedding will happen regardless of who else is there, not there, uninspired, etc.

Now…be happy! You’re getting married!!!!

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2011

That was the response I got from my FMIL but we’ve had issues from the start (when FI and I were merely friends) and still have them regularly =(.. Hopefully yours was just from “shell shock” 😉

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Just let it roll of your back. She is probably having all kinds of emotions going on and it’s not worth your energy worrying about her. Your FI is 100% right, it’s about the two of you.

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2011

I didn’t realize your wedding was so close (my little one kinda distracted me towards the end)

I would defintiely focus on your FH BUT… If this is the way ya’lls relationship is/usually is then it is His place to take your side and set a level of respect for you through his family.

Otherwise do NOT let her mess up ya’ll’s day! =)

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

east coast bride has great advice.  Everyone is a little stressed and nutty the week before a wedding–probably yourself included.  You mentioned that she may have some serious medical issues as well.  Don’t take it personally.  If she does act wacky at the wedding, then it is either a reflection on her (not you) or she really needs to see a medical professional.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’m so sorry you have to deal with such horrible behavior right before your day. Things got a little crazy between my family too and it’s best to just ignore it and enjoy the last few days of anticipation. Don’t let them get to you! As long as YOU’RE excited to marry the man you love forget their comments. It’s about you guys, not them!

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