Post # 1
My FMIL is driving me crazy when it comes to the guest list. We are having a fairly small wedding around 80-90 people, that is all that will fit in our venue. She is paying for a third of the food for the reception so I am okay with her inviting some people (eventhough I have never met these people!!) Anyways, we have asked her and asked her for each persons name and their address. We have to know everyones name for the escort cards and RSVP cards, so there are no surprises. We are having plated dinners so its really important we know exactly who is coming.
She keeps providing vague details on these people and has not provided their addresses. It is beyond frusterating. Sometimes she says only 5 people are coming and then last night its 14!!! I only have so many invites to send out and am not going to order more. Tonight me and FH are supposed to call her and get everything cleared up, I am afraid I will lose my temper with her, she is beyond frusterating.
Anyone else deal with a similar situation? Did you have guests show up who were not invited??
Post # 3
Can you tell her that your invitations are going on on XXXX date, and if she wants them to be invited, you need to have their names, addresses, email addresses and phone numbers by then at the latest? No info, no invite.
Post # 4
@Mrs_Jujyfruit: I had to deal with my FMIL and her insistence that all of her extended family members be invited to the bridal shower and wedding (separate arguments, of course). None of them came to the shower, however, quite a few of them have RSVPed ‘yes’ to the wedding. We had some issues because she is not very close with these relatives and after invitations were sent, realized several of them had moved more than a decade ago; we then had to send ANOTHER invitation to everyone that suddenly had a new address. Give her a deadline and ask her for a final guest list with all names and addresses; tell her you cannot send out an invitation without this information. If she doesn’t provide the information, don’t send an invitation. In regards to how many invitations to order, ALWAYS order extras! You will need them. We had 10 extras printed (for our 150+ guests) & after using all of the extras, I ended up having 4 more printed just in case.
Post # 5
@Mrs_Jujyfruit: Oops my response was really similar to the PP, but I’m at work so sometimes I don’t complete my posts for an hour or so ha!
Post # 6
@Dareebs: Thanks! I think tonight is going to be the deadline lol. I just dont wanna stress about it anymore, she has had tons of time to get this info to me.
Post # 7
@Mrs_Jujyfruit: ROFL because I am so in the same boat! I got so fed up with her when I had my invitations made, I was sure to word it to let people know that she was hosting this thing so any faus pas- not on me- because I cannot control all of them, i.e. reception announcement on the radio.
Post # 8
Hahahaha, FMIL sent us a list of 40 people to invite. 40!!! We wanted 60 people max. We have invited 80 as of today. We picked 19 of her people (FI doesn’t know the rest and hasn’t seen them since he was a small child or he doesn’t like them), and now that people are getting invitations the ones that aren’t are going to her asking why they didn’t get one. And she wants us to invite all of the rest of the people we didn’t invite so they can say no. BUT WHAT IF THEY DON’T SAY NO AND I HAVE TO PAY FOR 21 EXTRA PEOPLE!!??!?!
I feel your pain.