(Closed) FMIL….you can’t COMPLAIN when it was YOUR idea!!

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
1573 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

just tell her politely she can invite less people and choose less expensive items

Post # 4
140 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I wouldn’t say you were wrong in telling her that those people will not be at the rehersal. Let her know that if it is going to be a problem about paying for that many people, she will either need to limit the amount of people or change the dinner.  If she still complains, maybe you and your FH could sit down and figure out if you could pay for a dinner on your own for just your party and grandparents by doing a BBQ.  The rehersal dinner should not be a stress on you and it sounds like. that is what she is turning it into. Hope that helps!  Good luck!

Post # 5
164 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Our Priest was extremely strict– no one at the rehersal who is not IN the wedding, everyone else can show up for the Real Thing, they only have to wait a few more hours! This has caused a little angst with our bridesmaids who are bringing dates who have to meet us at the restaurant, but Church Policy overrides Bride Policy so I am not the bad guy 🙂

As for the cost– how tacky!!! She absolutely should not be eating something in front of her own guests that no one else is allowed to order!


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