Post # 1
First of all thank you to everyone for their kind words… I deleted my previous post due to safety reasons and I’m sorry about that.
After a very difficult week at home I have left my husband. I’ve been at my parents all weekend and tomorrow while he is at work I’m going to get some more of my clothes. I told him I needed the week to just take a breather but next weekend while he is away I’m going to get all my stuff that I care about.
I told my family and they 100% support me leaving him. They said they have been fearful of my safety and don’t like what he has done to me.
The next few months are going to be hell but I am strong and I deserve more. My aunt was diagnosed with brain cancer a week before Christmas and she is going to be having surgery soon so I’m going to stay with her to help her and my uncle out while she recovers. It will give me something to focus on and I want to be there for her.
I feel like such a failure but I also know it is notmy fault. My husband is an alcoholic with a gambling and likely sex addiction. I am more than that.
For anyone else in an abusive relationship know that you are more than that and you deserve to be happy and be treated with respect. One of the ladies posted on my previous thread that, “No matter how far down the road you are you can always turn around.” No word are more true.
Post # 3
@wishnforhappiness: good for you! Best of luck to you and prayers for your aunt. I’ve never been in a situation like that but I can imagine leaving is the hardest part. I hope all the rest is easy and positive:)
Post # 4
@wishnforhappiness: Leaving is the hardest part…and you’ve done that and even though i dont know you personally, Im so proud of you for taking that step.
You’re right, these next few months are going to be tough, but you’ve got your family supporting you 100%
Post # 5
@wishnforhappiness: Im so glad your family is so supportive! Best of luck to you!
Post # 6
@wishnforhappiness: i am so happy to hear this but at the same time sad bc it will be hard. But you have your family to support you and all of us Bees!!!! I wish you lots of luck and strength!
Post # 7
I am so happy you have taken control and removed yourself from the situation. I understand that you want to get your things, but PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE bring someone (a brother, father, etc) with you. Your safety is worth so much more.
Post # 8
It took tremendous courage to leave. My heartfelt wishes for a better life from this moment forward..
Post # 9
@wishnforhappiness: You’re my hero. We love you. That is all.
Post # 10
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
So happy to read this. Good for you!!! Please do everything you can to protect yourself – sometimes this time can be the most dangerous. You are a courageous lady and I’m proud of you!!
Post # 11
You are amazing! Good luck to you!
Post # 12
I know this is a difficult time, but I’m glad you were able to leave, and that you have the support of your family. Also, as PPs have said, please bring someone with you when you get your clothes and personal belongings. Even if you’re sure he’ll be out of the house, better safe than sorry. Also, if you don’t have someone to being with you, then you can ask your local police to send a police officer with you. They’ve done it many times, you won’t be the first or last to ask.
Post # 13
You are very brave and deserve more. Sending well wishes your way.
Post # 14
@wishnforhappiness: girl I have been thinking about you like crazy! I’m so glad to hear you are safe, have your family’s support and have a plan! I’m glad you’ll be with family. Helping them out will give you something constructive to do (though I’m sorry to hear about the cancer diagnosis). were you able to get your dog too?
best of luck! This first step is likely the hardest. While you’ll have more challenges, you’ll pull strength from reserves you didn’t know you had. ((Hugs))
Post # 16
I am so glad you are leaving him. You ARE special and you DO deserve a much better life than being stuck in abusive marriage.
Retain a lawyer asap and forge ahead to the wonderful adventure your life will be soon.