Follow up; inviting co-workers when your parents own the company?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 4
965 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

@Lrroma181986:  Is there any way you could not invite anyone?

If there are some that you MUST invite, cut it off at people you see and spend time with outside of work and work-related fuctions. If the only time you see them outside of work is when everyone gets lunch on Fridays or hits up a happy hour on Tuesdays, then don’t invite them. If they come over and hang out or you would make plans to meet up with them on a Saturday night, then they get the invite. If you are that close to them, then you are close enough to ask them not to talk about the wedding at work.

Post # 6
44 posts
  • Wedding: June 2012

I wouldn’t worry about the gossip. My husband and I met at work at a company of about 100 people. Our office was very close knit and we had many people we worked with that we considered friends. We invited probably 20 people from work, and there were even more people we wanted to invite but didn’t have space for. At the end of the day, everyone found out who was invited and who wasn’t. Things like that don’t stay secret, even if the people invited aren’t gossips. I don’t think the people we weren’t able to invite were offended, even though they are friends of ours. Most people don’t care! Also, I think people are understanding of how weddings are.

On the flip side, I’ve had friends at work who got married and invited some co-workers but not me or my husband. We both understood. Our line in the sand with who to invite was if we felt close enough to them that we could see ourselves inviting them over our apartment for dinner or going out 1×1 with them. If the co-worker friends were people we were only friendly with as part of the bigger group, we did not invite them. At the end of the day, everyone was supportive invited or not. 

I think if you want to invite this woman, you should, even if she is a gossip. I wouldn’t let that be your deciding factor. When it comes to co-workers, I don’t think people care as much as we think they might. Perhaps some are relieved not to be invited. 🙂

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