Post # 1
Just another add-on question to the gratuity question…If your main vendor (e.g., photographer) has assistants, are you expected to tip the assistants? What if you plan on providing the vendor, who happens to also own their business, something non-monetary? Thank you!
Post # 3
I gave (or had the DOC give) the caterer an envelope with the gratuity for the staff — it was labeled to indicate it was for the staff. (In the instance of the makeup artist, I said, "Thank you, this is for you and [assistant’s name].") It also depends how you’re settling up the bill. And, as someone else noted in the other tip post, check your contract to see if the staff gratuity is included in your bill. For the limo, the gratuity was included in the bill, and my credit card was automatically charged that morning, so we didn’t have to give the driver anything. For the caterer, the balance was due to her that evening, so she got an envelope w/ a check for the balance due and a 2nd envelope w/ the staff gratuity in cash (my DOC advised I give her 20s and 10s b/c it would make it easier on her to split up the tips to her staff when they cleaned up and left). I had the best man give the DOC an envelope, also w/ the balance due for his services and a 2nd envelope that was addressed to him personally with a thank you note and restaurant gift certificate. Don’t be shy about asking the vendor how they’d like to handle it. You can say something like, "I want to be sure we thank your staff properly; how do you normally handle staff gratuities?"