- 3 years ago
- Wedding: September 2014 - Lodge
My FI and I FINALLY had a chance to sit down with his daughter and talk about her inappropriate behavior. It went better than I thought it would BUT lets just say she’s going to have to earn our trust back. Especially mine.
She admitted to knowing she should not have had a boy over without supervision. She said she didn’t say anything because she didn’t want it to be made into a big deal…well guess what it is because you DIDN’T tell us. We talked about why no one we didn’t know was to be in the house without our knowledge, consent and probably supervision.
I asked to see her phone and went with her while she got it to make sure she didn’t deleate anything. I went through her phone while her dad continued to talk to her. Mostly pictures of her and friends…but then I got to a picture of her smoking pot. And not just a joint, or a pipe or a bong but her and her 14 year old cousin had made a bong out of a soda can!
Of course I showed her father who freaked out. She said they had just tried it the one time but I said “It sure looks like you know what you’re doing for just one time.” She claims her cousin had seen someone else do it. I said “I’ve seen people do a lot of things, doesn’t mean I’d know how to copy them.”
Needless to say she’s grounded. I told her we wanted access to her phone whenever we wanted and that just because she may have deleated things doesn’t mean they won’t show up else where. I’m looking into putting a tracker on her phone. I pay for the phone bill so I feel I have every right to do that, plus as her guardian I have every right to do that. I’m livid. I knew she was being devious but I honestly didn’t expect drugs. I wanted to throw the “I told you so” at my FI but decided against it. I just hope that he doesn’t fall for her innocent act anymore and trusts me more when I say she’s being inappropriate. Any of our kids actually. I have a really good 6th sense about things, I know when someone is lying, being dishonest, being inappropriate etc.
This is not the kind of thing I needed 30 days before my wedding. She’s lucky I’m not her biological mom, I’d ground her until she’s 86 and make her drop random drug tests.