Follow up to "Semen Aversion" thread. *TMI*

posted 3 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Ok, I cried. You are beyond brave to try to make this work and I’m really proud of you. Go you!!! You’ve got a great plan and I truly wish you the best in reaching your goals.

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

PositiveThinking:  I’m happy for you that the discussion with your therapist has given you some insight.

I think some of the responses in your first thread were affected by the fact that you did not disclose your history of sexual absuse at first. Certainly, you are under no obligation to do that, but it did greatly affect the responses you received.  Threads with incomplete information often go sideways on the Boards.

I hope things go well for you and your husband. He seems like a very supportive man.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Hunny 🙁

No wonder your having issues with that! Being a sexual abuse survivor myself, I know the hurt and anger it must cause you to have perfectly normal intimate times be ruined by an act(from a selfish horrible person) you have no control over.

Good for you for working slowly to get past this! You are more than your abuse! Your husband sounds like a very precious man who understands and will work with you!

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

PositiveThinking:  I definitely remember your last thread and I want to commend you on your progress!! Gradual exposure sounds like a great method to try (I’d still look into systematic desensitization techniques for yourself to work with in parallel to focusing on your husband’s connection at the point of ejaculation). Best of luck OP! 

Post # 10
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Glad to hear that you are moving forward. However I think it definitely would have affected people’s comments in your last thread if you had included all the information about the situation.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee

PositiveThinking:  I’m so glad that you’ve found a plan that you and your husband are both happy with and I sincerely hope that with the help and support of both your husband and your therapist you are able to overcome your aversion. Good luck!  (I really wanted an emoticon that looked like it was cheering but the happy face will have to do)

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

PositiveThinking:  You guys sound like you’re on a great track, in and out of the bedroom.  Good for you!!  

FYI the first time I let my FI cum inside me it felt amaaaazing!  It made me orgasm AGAIN, which neither of us were expecting.  Here’s hoping the same for you lol!  

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

i’m glad you’re getting the help you need (:

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’m so happy to hear your therapist is helping you with the aversion. I think the steps you’re taking is a great way to start and like you said with time you will associate his semen as the end of a beautiful bond with your Dh. He sounds like such a compassionate loving man and you are so brave to be open to this change. I can’t imagine how hard this must be but that you are willing to do this not just for him but also for your own healing  speaks for itself. Makes me reconsider my own sexial hangups, so you’ve def inspired at least one bee 😉 Wishing you the best of luck!

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