- 7 years ago
So I was re-reading Mr. Bee’s advice about waiting – which is very good advice – trouble is I feel like I’m following the Set a Deadline part already.
First off, I do completely plan to not talk about engagement/wedding plans/moving in together until August 1. It worked recently not talking about anything because it turned out he was doing a lot of thinking and brought up conversation on his own! However said conversation is still on the “I love you but I need to understand marriage” side versus “I gets it! You are it baby!”
Anyway, I would like to effectively not be filled with resentment so I want to be the independent woman-fun free girl he fell in love with. BUT – that’s kind of what I feel my life is already!
We are pseudo-long distance (DC-Baltimore) and I am usually busy every day of the week except for Sundays which is our day when he comes down. During the week when I don’t see him I go to the gym, have improv rehearsals, see theatre, go out, create events for other people to hang out with me – how do I find new stuff to do to make me seem even more awesome therefore desirable and thus maybe-you-should-be-proposing-to-this-awesome-girl? You know – as Mr. Bee implies.
My SO is a home body most days, should I stay home by myself to show I can also have fun on my own without people? Like solo? And by being without him and without anyone else means I’m not clingy to a social life?
AND has anyone else gone through the 3 step plan and was met with engagement?
Thanks for the help bees!