- 9 years ago
So it was about a month ago that the flirting with the coworker began (see link).
Since then, they escalated the flirtation to text messages/a few phone calls.
There were literally hundreds of text messages back and forth, sent while I was either with friends/at work/ or in the other room.
We argued on and off about it, him promising that she meant nothing and that he didn’t want to “hurt her feelings.”
He asked if I cared if he met with her to tell her in person that he was working on our relationship and that their friendship/flirtation had to end.
But I don’t think he ever said that to her.
She was continually texting him/calling him.
Last weekend I saw a text on his phone that said, “Maybe we shouldn’t be talking and flirting so much, you still have a GF.”
SHE said that to HIM a week after he claimed that he had told her he had to back off?!? That makes NO SENSE.
I’m not sure what his reply to that was, because he deleted it, but she sent him another text moments later that said, “Oh, good. Because I still want to talk and see you and stuff.”
I confronted him, threatened to leave and he begged me not to go. I left for the day and he kept calling to tell me he ended things with her and that he would give me full disclosure about her attempts to contact him.
That night, she sent him a message that said, “Is it safe to call.”
He told me about that message, but it doesn’t make sense that she would say that if he’d asked her to back off.
She then called him the next day, which he told me was because she “Had to be told again to back off.”
But she’s since continued the correspondence, less so, but I think he might be using another means of communicating with her (IM perhaps).
I spent the weekend at a friend’s house to clear my head and she called him exactly 45 minutes after I left the house.
I came home and he was cold and distant, barely kissed me hello and only then after I said “Where’s my kiss!” because I’d gotten so used to it when I came home from anywhere.
I know this looks TERRIBLE and I’m so sad.
Please let me know if you think there’s ANY CHANCE that this girl is the crazy one… and what my plan of action should be.