Post # 1
I need some suggestions or ideas.
1. Our ceremony starts at 6:30 and reception at 7:00. Should we let the guests start eating dinner immediately while we do pictures or make them wait the possible hour until we get into the reception?
2. What suggestions do you have for snacking food on the tables in small 4 compartment trays?
3. We are thinking Steak, Baked potato, and salad for dinner. What problems do you see with that?
4. What problems do you see with serve yourself drinks including wine?
Thanks for any answers you can provide! Our wedding is less than 2 months and I really need help getting this figured out!
Post # 3
I guess we’d need more info. Are you doing this yourself or do you have a venue or caterer that provides the food?
Typically there would be a cocktail hour with passed and stationed food followed by dinner.
If you’re only offering Steak, some guests may not eat meat or may not like how it is cooked. Is there a vegetable as well? Would this be a served meal or buffet style?
Most states do not allow serve yourself wine, check with your venue or local laws.
If you aren’t planning on doing anything like introductions or toasts or dancing before dinner, it’s ok to just start with that but your guests may think it’s odd to be eating with out you being served or going through the buffet first.
Wish I could help more, good luck!
Post # 4
1. I think you should feed them, I would not be a happy camper if I was waiting for an hour for the bride/groom to show up so I could eat. I’m assuming cocktail hour is not an option?
3. Some people don’t eat red meat or will want their steak cooked to order. I know I have some guests who like their steak burnt
4. I think bottles of wine on the table is fine but people might overdo the hard liquor if you let them pour for themselves.
Post # 5
1. I wouldn’t serve the guests until your reception officially starts. The reception hasn’t started until the bride and groom are there.
2. If you’re looking for something cost effective, what about a cheese and crudite display with some breads and dips?
3. Do you have any vegetarians? Even if your guests aren’t vegetarians, they may not eat red meat. To make sure everyone is happy, I would consider adding some kind of chicken and a vegetarian dish (pasta would work).
4. I personally wouldn’t allow my guests to serve themselves, especially when you’re talking alcohol. I have a feeling you would run out much quicker if you give them free reign of the bar than if you had someone there controlling the portion sizes.
Post # 6
@thewheelsonthebus: we are doing everything ourselves. Food, beverage, cocktail hour…everything. I really wish we could afford to have it catered because that would take away a lot of stress!
Our venue allows us to serve our own drink as long as we get liquor insurance. We just plan on having beer, wine, and a signature drink so no worries on the liquor part, but I just didn’t know if it would be tacky to have people pouring their own wine.
Thanks for your comments!
Post # 7
1. A cocktail hour is probably best here, with food to tide guests over while they mingle and you take photos.
2. Fruits, veggies, cheese, crackers, bread, kabobs, anything really.
3. Many people don’t eat steak, whether for personal, medical, or ethical reasons. Can you offer a vegetarian option?
4. It’s not legal in many states or venues.
Post # 8
It wouldn’t be tacky to have serve-yourself wine…it can be done tastefully. Leave framed notes telling guests the serve-yourself deal. It might be nicer to have wine buckets at each table. And I don’t know what’s available in your area, but you really can find catering that will be comparable in costs to what you are doing yourself, not to mention being a huge stress-reliever. In my home-town I’ve found homestyle options as low as $10 per person.