Post # 1
Just need some help with planning from any helpful bees- pretty please?
I was thinking of having a wedding and reception at the same venue from 3-9.30pm (we have to out of the venue by 10:30pm including clean up). I’d figured our ceremony will be 3.30-4.30pm followed by cocktail hour with fruit kebabs and cocktails with fruit in them outside (whilst setting up for reception). Then hopefully eveyone can file into the venue and be chowing away at dinner 6.00pm. I decided to have sushi and satay stick appetizers and then the mains will be chicken, fish and steak all served family style.
I think that since the invitations states a 3pm wedding start dont ppl have lunch first? and if they do they shouldnt the snacks tie them over until dinner?
my MIL thinks that i should serve the hor dev vours duing the cocktail hour or serve the appetizers here and then only have the mains for the sit down. She’s worried that since its a sat wedding some ppl will drive down sat morning and miss lunch.
What are my guests expecting from a 3pm-9.30pm wedding? especially in regards to cocktail hour food? I dont really want them to get full from the cocktail hour…Also do you continue to serve cocktails during the reception? Im hiring a bartender so it would be nicer on my wallet if i can switch to wine/beer/soft drink for reception, but i dont know if this is considered rude?
Please bees educate me?
Post # 3
I think guests will definitely have eaten lunch before the 3 pm ceremony…I would only worry about the bridal party missing out due to getting ready and photos. Everyone else should be fine!
I’ve seen plenty of people switch to just wine or wine and beer for dinnertime. Your guests shouldn’t consider that rude.
Post # 4
I’m sure people will have eaten by 3. And they will probably plan ahead. I may keep a stash of carrots or raisin packs if you are having any kids there. Most parents will think ahead, but just is case they forget it.
Post # 5
i would say with your time frame i would only worry about dinner and some light food during cocktail hour may be nice (like what you have planned). seems like you’re fine on the food front to me.
we’re only doing beer and wine during the cocktail hour and reception because that’s all we can afford. we’re also closing the bar during the dinner hour which is standard practice we’re i’m from. most guests don’t get up to get another drink while they’re eating.
basically, i think you’re doing fine with your planning.
Post # 6
As a guest, I would expect supper because your reception runs over supper time. But I would come fed lunch at three. If you serve too much for food during your cocktail hour, I would expect your guests won’t eat much for supper. I’m sure your guests will eat lunch or a snack before.
I don’t know enough about alcohol etiquette to answer your second question.
Post # 7
no way i wouldn’t miss lunch for a 3 oclock wedding.
Post # 8
I would think most people will eat before coming to the wedding. My only concern with only having fruit kebabs and cocktails and not serving the sushi/satay during the cocktail hour is that some people might be real tipsy drinking cocktails and not eating any “real food” for an hour. (maybe not though?)
I think it’s totally fine to shut down the liquor after the cocktail hour and serve only beer/wine.
Post # 9
Thanks bees! Feel better about holding my ground with MIL
gabrielleelise- good point. Maybe I can serve small fruit tarts of something like that (I wanted a fruity themed cocktail)….
Also one more food related question- Im thinking about having a friendor (more of a friend of a friend etc) cater. She has done some parties in the past but not really weddings so we’re both pretty inexperienced. Just wondering after dinner and before cutting the cake should the waiters clean up the dishes and then after the cake is cut serve the cake. Or do you leave the plates out until after the cake is served (the cake is the desert)…
Thank you all!