Food For Vendors? Food and Tip?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: What did you do?
    didn't get them food or tip : (0 votes)
    tipped them only : (0 votes)
    got them food only : (12 votes)
    30 %
    got them food and tipped : (23 votes)
    58 %
    Other, state below! : (0 votes)
    Tip only vendors who do not own thier own business : (5 votes)
    13 %
    Tip everyone : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    Member
    1570 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    My venue has “vendor” meals.  I did make certain it was more than a subway sandwhich, but it is less than a full meal.  The food is nice, but no appetizer or desert (which they do not have time for anyway).  I tipped any vendor whose tip was not included in contract (wait staff) or who owned their own business

    Post # 5
    Member
    6964 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2015

    @asianbarbie:  I think you pretty much have to feed anyone who is going to be there for the majority of the day/majority of the reception. Otherwise they’d have to leave your wedding to go get food, right? And just like paying for your bridesmaids to get their hair done for you wedding isn’t a “thank you gift”, feeding your vendors while they work your wedding isn’t a replacement for a tip. So tip whoever you were going to tip without factoring feeding them into the equasion. 

    Post # 6
    Member
    845 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @asianbarbie:  We tipped those who weren’t in business for themselves. So, as an example, no tip for photographer, but one for the DJ since he was employed by a company and food for all vendors who where there for the meal. A meal was written into the contract for the photographer, DJ and wedding coordinator and her staff so we were obligated (but happy) to provide it. 

    Post # 7
    Member
    5932 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2018

    @asianbarbie:  One has nothing to do with the other, you feed them because they need to eat and then you tip them because you’re pleased with the work they’ve done.  Regardless of price, deal or personal relationship, cutting either out is something that will put you in a bad light with your vendors.

    Post # 8
    Member
    3570 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    You need to feed all of them, and tip those who do not own their own business.  The photographer’s assistant should receive a tip. 

    Post # 9
    Member
    10384 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    You only tip people who don’t own the business. So, it sounds like no tip for anyone, really.

    You should feed all of them, though.

    Post # 11
    Member
    6505 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @Nona99:  +1

    We fed all of our vendors. We also tipped all of them.

    Post # 13
    Member
    9529 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I marked feed and tip everyone – but I only tipped those that don’t own their own business. I will write nice reviews for those that own their own business. But definitely feed everyone.

    Post # 14
    Member
    8593 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    You only tip those who do not own the business.  If they own it, they are already making a profit.  I’m only tipping my DJ because he doesn’t own the business.

    And you should feed anyone who will be there throughout the length of your reception or all day with you.  Usually just photographers and DJ/band.  My photog has it written into the contract they must be provided food at the reception or they will take a 30 min lunch (away from your event).

    Post # 15
    Member
    6273 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @asianbarbie:  my vendors like photog, videog, and dj require food in their contracts.  not a problem.  i had a choice of vendor meals and went with a cheaper option.

    other vendors, like my florist, MUA, and hair i do not have to feed.

    also, you do not have to tip vendors who own their own business.  it of course is a nice gesture if you do or sent them a thank you or small gift.  my florist, mua, hair person, photog, and videog all own their own company and are their only employee. 

    i will be tipping the dj, photobooth attendent, not sure if i missed anyone there…

    tips for the bartenders and servers are included in my catering contract.

    i hope this helps.

     

    Post # 16
    Member
    1500 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @asianbarbie:  You feed everyone a full meal. You tip whoever you think did a good job. I don’t see the need for you to tip your videographer since you’ve been meh about that vendor all along. I’m giving a gift to my photographer because she’s gone above and beyond during the time I hired her, and same goes for my DOC, though they both own their companies. I also plan on tipping my catering staff and DJ (who is doing it for free).

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