Post # 1
- Wedding: September 2014 - SPRING VALLEY COUNTRY CLUB
I am annoyed…I can’t even really explain just how annoyed but i am sure going to try!!
My fiance is an avid sneaker collector. Yes SNEAKERS! i have been with him for 6 years…so i know this is a part of who he is, and thats fine.
But now as we are planning the wedding reception i am becoming annoyed.
Hw wants to wear sneakers to wedding reception…i can see why he would but REALLY DUDE? You can’t turn it off for one day!!! Oh and not only that…he wants to wear a completely differnt vest and bow at the reception to match his beloved sneakers? Oh and theres more!!!
He also wants his grooms men to wear differnt color vest and bow ties to match the sneakers of their choosing.
Here’s the thing. I get it. That’s his thing. That’s what he’s into…OKAY. But why not have everybody wear the same thing. Same sneakers, vest, bows…whatever.
I feel like they are going to be at the reception looking foolish and ridiculous.
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Post # 4
@absolutely_tati: My dear friend is a sneaker addict too. For his wedding, he ordered custom Air Force Ones for himself and all the groomsmen. The wedding colors were red and black…so the Air Force Ones were black with red accents. They were black tuxes, red vests, red ties. It looked really cool. Maybe something like that would be a compromise?
Post # 5
I think it’d be pretty cool actually. sorry! haha
Post # 6
@absolutely_tati: I think it’ll actually look kind of cute… and yeah, it’s not perfectly formal, but it’s his real personality and something he’s excited about- and he only wants to do it at the reception, and the reception is a party. Parties are for fun!
Better to have a husband who’s excited and feels involved in the wedding than one who looks picture perfect but feels out of place, I think.
Post # 7
Hmm. I can understand why you’d be annoyed, it will look kind of ‘patchworky.’
Maybe this as a compromise? My BIL and all of his GMs wore custom converse for his wedding. It was really cool, he had “Groom” written on his and all of the guys had their nicknames.
The converse all matched and were almost completely black.
It was his gift to them.
Also, if he gets to change, you should have the option to have a second dress (only if you want to.)
Post # 8
@absolutely_tati: I think it’s kind of a neat idea. Is he open to the idea of them wearing matching sneakers?
Post # 9
I understand where you’re coming from but it all depends on your budget because he could order some nice custom made sneakers that would be appropriate for a wedding. Non sneaker heads probably won’t get it but it’s possible.
Post # 10
@absolutely_tati:I also think that’s really cute. It could seem strange now, but I think it’d be such a fun thing to see in pictures 10, 20, 50 years from now when you reminisce with family. Everyone gets to show off their personality, sounds like a lot of fun actually.
It is your wedding though. So what I think is a fun idea could be terrible to you. I’d advise some sort of compromise though. Normally grooms have little to no opinion on weddings cause they don’t care, so when they do have an opinion its pretty important to them and should be something to try and incorporate.
Post # 11
@absolutely_tati: I hate to say it but that would look AWESOME!!!
I would try not to stress and think hey… At least he cares enough to add his own spin! It’s his day too! I think that’s a unique and interesting way to make it personal!
Post # 12
- Wedding: December 2014 - 13th ~ TN
@absolutely_tati: Why ask the groomsmen to fork out extra $$ so they can match?
Let him wear what he wants to the reception, it’s not like he wants to wear this during the actual ceremony.
Post # 13
He’ll be wearing real shoes for the ceremony and the pictures? As long as there’s little photographic evidence of this, it should be fine!
Post # 14
@absolutely_tati: I don’t think it’s a terrible idea for just the reception as long as the groomsmen are okay with paying for the extra colored vests, bow ties and sneakers. I would be okay with it as long as all formal pictures were taken before he changed into his reception attire. He can get silly pictures with his groomsmen done during the reception or just before/after.
Post # 15
If there was a bee posting about how her FI wanted to make her and her bridesmaids wear shoes they didn’t like for the reception, everyone would be telling her that he sounds controlling and she should reconsider marrying him.
Post # 16
Well, I’m with your husband. It’s his thing and he’s not asking you to wear sneakers! I, honestly, thinkit will look really awesome, especially if people know this is something he’s really into!