Football game more important than shower?

posted 3 years ago in Family
  • poll: Should I expect my family to miss a football game to come to daughter's shower?
    Yes they could miss one game or show up late and see part of it. : (27 votes)
    27 %
    No they can put their priorities wherever they choose. : (24 votes)
    24 %
    Coming to the shower and leaving early is fair to everyone involved. : (48 votes)
    48 %
  • Post # 3
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

    How long are you planning the shower to last? She would be leaving the shower after 2.5 hours, correct? Is the bride upset by this?

    Post # 4
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    3777 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    Yeeeah, I’m in the minority and football is a huge deal for me. I planned my wedding in Feb. to avoid messing with football season and my showers were on non-football days. I think attending for two and a half hours and leaving early is a good compromise. How long is this shower going to be?! Mine was only 2 hours.

    Post # 6
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    3777 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    Also, I totally turned on an NFL game during one of my showers, because it was good and all my friends were checking scores on their phones anyway.

    Post # 7
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    2551 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    2.5 hours seems like plenty of time to go to a shower and show support for the bride without having it totally monopolize your entire day…

    Post # 9
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    3777 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    @Sadiepoo:  that is a crazy long wedding shower. People were leaving mine after 1.5 hours.

    Post # 10
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    644 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    Well… we planned our wedding around college football as his family would attend a game over our wedding. DH’s cousin is getting married this weekend but DH will be at the Clemson game along with his dad, mom, brother, 2 uncles, and aunt instead. While I think it’s crazy, this is the norm in the family so I’m not surprised that others have these feelings.

    Post # 11
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    @Sadiepoo:  I’m not an american football fan, but I am a HUGE soccer fan and season ticket holder. I missed a game for my best friends wedding, but left a different wedding EARLY to attend a HUGE match.. we weren’t very close and I don’t think we were missed when we slipped out!

    I understand being hurt, and I think your closest friends and family shouldnt miss your events for the world, but it’s hard to understand if you yourself aren’t a crazy fan.

    To be honest, we will probably plan our wedding on a day we don’t have a home game.. And we have already discussed future pregnancy and plan to get pregnant so I can give birth in the off season. There is no way we are taking a NEWBORN to games, but theres no way I’m going to miss them either 🙂

    Post # 12
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    22135 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2011

    If the shower starts at 11, I bet she could be there for most of it before having to leave at 1:30.

    Either way though, I totally understand the hurt feelings, and when I was having my bridal showers, I really wanted my family there. I hope it works out okay for everyone!

    Post # 13
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

    I had guests who had to leave early/came late to my shower, for various reasons. I was happy with the time they were there. Depending on what sort of food you serve, whether or not you do games, you could be finished by the time they plan to leave.

    Post # 14
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2015

    @Sadiepoo:  I understand your frustration. However, I would never have a party on a Dodger game day because all my cousins would either be absent or they’d just find the nearest tv and may as well be absent. If your family is THAT into sports, you have to accept it as part of family life. For some people it’s basically as if you decided to have a party on a religious holiday and don’t understand why they are leaving early to go to church. Sucks but that’s life. 

    Post # 15
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    11772 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I think leaving early is a good compromise. Grandma gets to see the game, daughter gets the shower and fewer people watching her open gifts for an hour!

     

    Post # 16
    Hostess
    15072 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    That’s kind of the way my whole state is, I’ve never known anything else. Something you just don’t do here is schedule events during the game. And if you have tickets, well, those are better than gold. Even our priests here will advise to schedule weddings around game times. If your reception is during a game, there had better be a TV and don’t expect a whole lot of dancing until it over, and then only if we win. 

    This isn’t something new for this family, obviously this is cultural for them. Whoever scheduled the shower should have taken that into consideration. To many it just a game, I get that, but its not to the family going to the game. We all have things in our lives where someone better be bleeding or dying for someone to interrupt it, for them its the game.

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