Post # 1
A neighbour of ours just started chemotherapy last week and is feeling run down, but not full blown sick/can’t eat yet.
I wanted to drop off a meal he and his partner could just throw in the oven and not have to worry about dinner. Him and his partner take good care of themselves physically, but they aren’t total health nuts either. I know lots of doctors encourage chemo patients to try and put on weight while they still can, so I wanted to make them a nice, comforting meal- homemade bake in the oven mac n cheese. Just something special and delicious that feels like a treat since they are going through a hard time.
However, DH feels like they might appreciate a healthier, more nutritious meal.
What do you think? Would you rather receive a comfort casserole or a healthy vegetable soup during a hard time?
Post # 3
I would go with the comfort food. When my mom went through Chemo she started loosing weight very rapidly, and it would have been good for her to have a few extra pounds on her bones! I would also check with them if there are any food aversions. Before my mom got too sick to eat properly there were already a lot of foods she was averse to.
Post # 4
@bananejaune: I would give them something you know they’ll eat….healthy or comforting, chemo changes a lot of elements for patients, and for some of them, certain things taste horribly and others divine….by the time my grandma was done, all she’d eat were Big Macs and dirty martinis…my grandfather loves lots of horshradish and salt, my mother was all about carbs….its a personal thing….doing something nice is as good as it gets, so don’t fash yourself over what it is, they’ll appreciate it.
Post # 5
@bananejaune: One of my friends is going through chemotherapy, and I’m pretty sure everyone dropping off food for her is more concerned with giving her heartier foods to help her keep the weight on.
Can you combine the two? Perhaps using real butter and freshly grated cheddar instead of margarine and processed cheese? And adding some broccoli or peas?
Post # 6
I had a conversation once with a dietician who said that if you could lower your acidity and eat cleaner, it helps get rid of diseases faster because the processed materials and chemicals actually creates acidity and doesn’t help to fight off bad cells in the body…granted I am sure they want comfort food:(
Post # 7
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I would go with neither and here is why. Chemo changes your appetite, makes you nauseas and changes how food tastes.
Even low dose chemo does this. Thats why the day after I drop my weekly dose I dont give myself crap if I eat like crap. Sometimes the only thing that doesnt make me hurl tastic is something super bad for me. I cant blame my body for going oh hell no after I poison it weekly. Even a little poison is poison, so in her case where she’s taking chemo for cancer make something that sounds tasty to her. That could change day to day so just ask.
Post # 8
Send the comfort food. Things that are easy to reheat and eat are priceless, as much for the caretaker as the patient. Everyone worries about the patient, and a lot of times the caretaker will get run down and sick because they’re trying to handle everything, and they forget to even cook for themselves. My mom always sends a lasagna or baked ziti when people have a serious illness, and she cuts and packs it into single serve portions.
Post # 9
Awesome guys, thanks for the feedback!
I make my homemade mac with butter, cream, and gruyere and aged cheddar, so no processed here. But I like the idea of adding healthy elements… maybe I’ll swap whole wheat noodles instead of regular and add some broccoli. Good call!
@beachrunner26: I definitely feel like that’s what DH was trying to go for when he suggested a healthier option…. and it is a valid point for sure.
Post # 10
@bananejaune: Yum, that sounds delicious! I’m sure your neighbor would appreciate the meal.
Post # 11
Definitely comfort food – but regardless, I think it’s so nice of you to do something like this! They will appreciate and remember the gesture for a long time, I’m sure!
Post # 12
I’m an Oncology nurse. I’d make something that doesn’t have a strong smell to it. That tends to bother chemo patients. Or you could bake it at your house and take it to them. Something high in protein and calories. Also, plastic silverware helps keep the metallic taste from the chemo away. Maybe something that they could freeze for later.
Post # 13
I think dropping off food is great. But be aware that, most likely, your neighbor is not going to consume what you bring over. I agree to bring something that is low odor and no more than 4-5 servings. Chances are his partner is going to be eating the food solo. When my mom went through chemo the only thing she wanted to eat was Saltine crackers so maybe a hearty low odor soup that can be microwaved easily and a box of saltines to go with it?
Either way, this is a wonderful gesture and I’m sure your neighbor’s partner will be thankful to not have to worry about making something for himself. Several people brought meals to our house when my mom was sick, but it was only ever my dad and brothers who would eat the meals.
Post # 14
@bananejaune: Comfort food all the way. Especially since it is him and his partner. Even if he can’t stomach it his partner will be stressed, rundown and comfort food is the perfect thing. Plus Mac and cheese is a great freezer food, reheats well, etc. Kudos to you for being so thoughtful.
Post # 15
Comfort food. They’re gonna have a hard enough time eating anything at all… it’d have to be REALLY appetizing…
Post # 16
Every chemo drug (and patient) is different, but chances are that he has lost his appetite and may well be feeling very nauseous. Just make it was tasty!