Post # 1
So I had an awkward situation with a coworker, J, yesterday. Another coworker, S, has been dating someone new and is spending an exorbitant amount of time on the phone with this new person (like, 2-3+ hours of an 8 hour work day chatting away in her cubicle, loud enough for all of us to hear). It’s started to grate on everyone’s nerves, and at lunch while J and a few other coworkers were sitting together, coworker W said that she’d contacted our boss about the phone calls because they’ve started interrupting her work (W shares a cubicle wall with S).
J, who works on a different floor, got upset when she heard this because she is one of those people who thinks nobody should ever go to the boss about anything, ever. I was trying to explain just how bad S’s personal phone use is at work, and J snapped at me that of course I wouldn’t use my work phone to make personal calls (I do! Just not for two or three hours of the day!) because I already live with my FI.
… which is sort of true! We almost never call or text each other like we used to when we started dating. That’s not to say we don’t communicate throughout the day, but it’s normally about pretty mundane stuff, like picking up milk, hahah.
So I was wondering, if you live together with your SO, how often do you communicate with them outside of home?
Post # 3
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It is rare. Also for mundane things. Even when I go away with the girls for a weekend we just check in a couple of times via text.
Post # 4
FI and I work different schedules most days, I work 8:30-4:30 Monday to Friday. He’s usually 1:30-9:30 and his days vary. So in the mornings while he’s home and it’s slow for me at work we text regularly. Beyond that, I will always text him when I’m leaving work/arriving home and he does the same.
Post # 5
I”m a teacher so texting/calling during the day isn’t really possible.
I will text/call on the way home if it’s something “urgent” – I’m going to the store. Do you want lunch meat? those kinds of things
Post # 6
DH calls me about 3-5 times a day. Some are quick, just wanted to say I love you, some are longer…filling me in on his day etc. Some days, depending on his schedule, once a day. We text about the same. THis has not changed since we were married, and was the same when we were engaged. I am a SAHM, but when working, we talked about the same, but texted more.
Post # 7
we work for the same company so we are on our interoffice IM ALL. DAY. LONG. haha. we communicate more now than we did before we moved in together.
Post # 8
@MrsRevolutionize: I don’t care if you live together or not, spending that much time on personal calls is ridiculous. I’d probably speak to the person privately first before going to the boss though.
As for me, I rarely take personal calls at work, unless it’s an emergency or some other special circumstance. In those cases, I limit the time to 5-15 minutes tops. My husband and I will exchange a few texts some days if something comes up during the day, but not every day. Things can wait until we get home to chat.
We have someone in the office who is always on the phone with personal calls. I think it’s so rude and disrespectful to her coworkers and also the owner of the business.
Post # 9
My husband might give me a quick call during the day sometimes about what we’re doing that night or what’s for dinner, or sometimes we’ll send each other a quick text, but that’s about it. And that’s all usually during my lunch, and I close my office door for any phone calls, personal or business, so I don’t disrupt other people.
But living together or not, probably not best for J to be so overt about personal calls at work!
Post # 10
We pretty much never call but we Google Chat and text often about little things. It’s difficult to say how many times a day but I would say there are about 20 lines of exchanges over the course of a day.
Post # 11
We chat on and off throughout the day, on Gmail, because our work requires us to be on our computers. Before we lived together, we also talked on the phone every night, for 30 mins or so, before going to bed. Now there’s no need to call each other unless we’re both not at home or at work. Hehe.
Your co-worker is still inappropriate though, new relationship or not. That’s way too much work time to be using up for calling her guy.
Post # 12
We never call but we almost never did before. Neither of us are really phone people. When we were dating we did email a ton throughout the day. That’s gone away mostly. Now we’ll text about stuff like what to get when I stop at the grocery store on my way home. Or what time we’re meeting so-and-so for dinner that night. We don’t just chat though, that can wait until we’re home. But we work the exact same schedule so thats part of it. We’re both working or we’re both home. If he was working while I was home I’d probably call more.
Post # 13
We usually call each other around lunch and when we’re headed home from work. Yeah, we probably talk on the phone more than is necessary.
Also, might want to change the poll to allow for multiple choices (since the first few responses and the last few responses are technically responses to different questions, if that makes sense).
Post # 14
No phone calls while at work to FI. Just text messages. I understand needing to call places that aren’t open in the evenings during the work day, but do you really need to spend time on the phone with you SO while at work? Can’t it wait until your lunch hour?
Post # 15
Its stayed the same for us. My DH calls me everyday during his lunch…we have about a 3-5 min chat. We send about 2-3 texts during the work day to eachother.
Post # 16
My husband and I text/email a few times a day, mostly about what’s for dinner, any errands or chores that need to be done after work, updates on bills paid, or our weekend plans (on Fridays).
I do not take personal calls from him (or anyone else) at work unless it’s something urgent. And even then I’ll step out into the hallway of our office building so other people can’t hear and try to keep the conversation to a few minutes.