Post # 1
So if we do have a get together the night before for out of town guests and family it will be around half of our guest list. So about 35 ppl. To be very plain it can get very expensive to do liquor for everyone two days in a row.
How are you handling it during your rehersal dinner?
Post # 3
talk to the restaurant. i’m sure you can set up a menu where everyone gets iced tea or soda, or maybe even one glass of wine with their meal (paid for by you), and they can order any additional drinks themselves on separate tabs.
i would print menus (or the restaurant might do it) explaining just that.
Post # 4
We paid for non-alcoholic drinks and there was a bar in the restaurant. My rehearsal was a lunch, so that cut down on the expectation for alcohol. There was a handful of that went to the bar to get a drink. Fine by me.
Post # 5
We had ours in a hospitality suite of the hotel we were all staying at, so we had to provide our own alcohol which was great. We just had wine and beer and it work out well.
If we had it in a restaurant, we probably would’ve paid for one round and then let our guests pay for more drinks if they wanted more.
Post # 6
We’re having ours in the church hall. No alcohol allowed. Makes life much easier.
Post # 7
For us it was all family plus 2 really good friends (MOH & BM) so it was no biggie. We just ordered off the menu and let everyone ordered whatever they wanted.
Post # 8
We’re setting a cap on the bar and letting everyone pay for their own after that. I don’t think everyone is going to get wasted at the dinner so I’m not concerned about going over the limit we’ve set.
Post # 9
What sort of venue is your dinner at? Their rules might determine what you have to do.
Ours was at a private house for about 30 people. I bought a case of red wine, a couple bottles of white wine and 3 12-packs of beer as well as 1 large bottle of Bombay Sapphire gin and the makings for gin and tonics. Was less than $200 and we had some alcohol left over!
Post # 10
I work for a large Casino company and most likely will hold it at one of our restaurants so that I can get a discount on the food – and it is Vegas Baby – everyone drinks too much lol so now you can see why I am concerned – 35 people could lead to one heck of a bar tab in a town where things are not cheap!
Post # 11
We had an open bar. People got whatever they wanted! We paid the tab at the end of the night (we had a private lounge at a sushi restaurant)
Post # 12
We’re have 26 people at our Rehearsal Dinner and none of them are big drinkers so I’m really not too concerned. I plan to make a menu for food and we’re going to give them an option of 3-4 mid-range wines and 3-4 mid-range beers + domestics and just let people order what they will.
Post # 13
I agree with LGenz. If you have an open bar, you can set a bar tab limit. In our case, we’re paying up to an X amount of dollars. When the tab gets close to that limit, if it does at all, then the restaurant owner will let me know and ask me if I want to either close it at the agreed amount or set a new max limit. The max limit we chose will cover 1.5 drinks/guest, which should be sufficient for just dinner.
Post # 14
the alcohol ceiling is a good idea- or instead of having people order drinks, you can just have the waiters serve wine with dinner and keep it at that.
Post # 15
We struggled with keeping the costs down for our 40-ish person dinner. We talked to three restaurants and they all offered at least a few options – full open bar, open bar with a cap, just wine & beer, or just cash bar.
We decided to go with the wine & beer option. Guests could still pay cash for cocktails if they wanted. I loved our “dinner” – it was in a private lounge area at a bar/club, and it was all heavy hors d’oeuvres. Very casual and fun. But still pretty damn expensive.
Post # 16
On the menu we created, we put includes unlimited wine, beer, soda, coffee – For the liquor, people could have ordered if they wanted to. Thats how we set it up with the restaurant. I thought it was going to get out of hand (given drunken friends), but most people actually stuck to the beer and wine.