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I consider myself VERY lucky that the boy does most of the work around the house. He loves to cook, and uses cooking as a way to unwind after work, so I reap the benefits of that. He also does all the laundry because I'm afraid of the basement in our building (stupid, I know, but I can't help it).
We split the housecleaning pretty evenly, though.
I do most of the cooking and cleaning, although he probably wouldn't agree because he's in denial. It's really annoying.
He does all the handyman type stuff, though.
I do most everything as well. I do all of the cooking, cleaning, etc. He does help with laundry, and grocery shopping though.
It doesn't bother me - I like a clean house, and he is impartial.
I usually do all of the housework, including the cooking, but the FI does almost all of the outdoor stuff like watering and trash and dog duty and pool upkeep so I think it is pretty fair. Just yesterday he asked me how to work the washing machine, so I guess I am glad I don't rely on him to clean.
I cook, he cleans up after meals. I empty the dishwasher, he loads it. We both spend Saturday morning doing general cleaning around the house. He does his laundry, I do mine. He takes care of the fish, I take care of the cat. We're pretty equal on cleaning, so it works out. Although, I usually end up cleaning the bathrooms because he doesn't do it right.
I'm lucky in that he does a lot of the cleaning and we both like to cook. I will clean the kitchen like no one's business, but he likes to clean too, even the things I hate cleaning - like the bathroom. :)
We're fairly even on cooking, too, although I used to pull the majority of it. I still do all the baking - the other night it was, "A... do you have the ingredients for your brownies here?" *Puppy dog face.*
We usually split things pretty evenly, but lately, he's been starting dinner for me. He gets home from work about an hour and a half before I do, so it's such a big help that he does that. I love him to death for it!
Otherwise, we usually split things evenly! The other day, I did all of the laundry and hung it up (we use drying racks) and he took it all down and folded it yesterday. He dusts...I vacuum. He washes the floors, and I clean the bathrooms. We have a good system going!
The only "job" my man has it taking out the trash and to rinse his dishes and put them in the sink. He does none of those things , but he'll clean up the rest of the house sometimes to suprise me with when I get home from work... but the trash will be full and there will be dishes with gunk on them in the sink! Haha! Soo it's probably about 50/50 he just doesn't like doing what I ask! Weirdo! Those are like the easiest jobs ever and he does all the hard ones instead?!? Oh well :)
we're quite equal - I do most of the cooking, laundry and dishes, but he is good about dusting and vaccuming, plus cleaning the bathroom..things I don't like to do!!
He does the bulk of errands and cleaning and then I'll do the "deep-clean" that he doesn't have the eye for- but he's a keeper for all the work he does! We'll see if that lasts once he get a job (he's a full-time student) so I better enjoy it while it lasts.
He does everything! Because I work and he doesn't! He's home all day, so he does a good job of cleaning, vacuuming, dishes, the like.
Before, I did everything. Now I just bring home the bacon and I am enjoying my little break and trying not to take advantage of it by being too messy. I still do a lot of cooking, mostly on the weekend. Sometimes he'll grill up chicken or offer to make me a sandwich though. Or breakfast. But I'll make fancy stew or homemade pizza, stuff that is still around during the week. I'll make batches of homemade salsa for him to nom on while I'm gone, too.
We each do our own laundry though. He has his bucket, I have mine, and we have a communal bucket for towels and the like. If he tried to do mine, he wouldn't know what to hang up, what to dry, and what settings to wash on, like delicate or normal, so I do my own. I do things like turn my jeans inside out when I wash them and stuff like that, too.
It's really pretty nice. I'm spoiled by the fact that I no longer have all this cleaning to do. But i have to admit, when it was him working the long hours and me only working part time during the morning, I took care of the apartment when we lived in Savannah. The place was spotless. Made me feel like I was "contributing".
Oh and I told him that the more he cleans, the more time WE have to hang out. Otherwise if he sits on his butt and does no cleaning, I have to clean, which means we get LESS hang out time. Priorities, man =]
My FI and I keep things pretty even- we switch off cooking every other night (and whoever doesn't cook does the dishes), we switch off laundry each week, we each clean as neccisary and we do the grocery shopping together. Sometimes we'll do a little more than our share if the other is super stressed/busy, but for the most part its even. It's super nice and I'm really happy with the arrangement :)
I guess it's equal. I do the daily up-keep cleaning, weekly cleaning, cooking, etc. and he does the home improvement projects. He also does dishes.
We've somewhat fallen into the more gender-specific roles - I do more of the cooking (except on weekends, he's a big brunch cooker and usually makes breakfast for me on weekend!), and FI takes out the trash/fixes things that need fixing. We both pay for a third party to do the cleaning=)
I do way more of the housework/cooking. I would say 85%. FI works much longer hours, at a more stressful job, and makes a lot more money, so I guess it's fair? He'll definitely do stuff around the house if I ask him, but I just hate ALWAYS having to ask. And he does it on his timeline, which is a lot slower than it woud take me. So sometimes I just end up doing it myself.
I think we're pretty even: My husband does all of the home improvement stuff (right now he's remodeling the master bath) and cooks about half the time. I do most of the daily cleaning and cook about half the time. Although, I have to say, when I was laid up with morning sickness for about three months, he did everything himself. :) I'm pretty lucky.
My FI is home more than I so he usually does a lot of the work. When I am home he likes it if I can relax and be with him.
It's pretty equal though I probably do a little more due to cooking most of the time, since he is in grad school with CONSTANT workload and I'm generally done for the day by 4:30 or 5. Also, we've decided some things aren't chores - cooking and building stuff aren't - they're hobbies. We generally split laundry, dishes, trash, etc. Neither of us make the bed or decorate. The big cleaning-type chores don't get done at all - I had to hire a housekeeper to come 1-2 times per month because we were living in filth. My mentality is I'd rather live in filth than do more than 50-60% of the housework and his is OH NO MORE HOMEWORK. But our housekeeper is awesome and we are no longer gross! YAY HER.
I do, because I am home all day looking for gainful employment.
BF says that he is going to miss when I find a job, as dinner won't be waiting when he comes home.
It's no problem if I ask him to do something, but since I'm home all day, I may well keep the house clean and such.
I used to take credit for the majority of the work around the house, but it's slowly become him who does it now. I had a breakdown shortly after he moved in b/c I had never actually asked him to help with the cleaning, shopping, etc. He immediately started helping me clean and running errands when I assigned them. Now that he's learned the 'flow' of running our household he totally takes the lead on most tasks and actually prefers that only he does certain things like the dishes, laundry, etc.
I do - right now. FH is finishing up grad school and this is his big last semester where we want to make sure he does good. I'm picking up the slack and I took less classes to help make sure the house runs smoothly - ie we have clean clothes, dishes, hot meals on the table. Our cleaning is lacking from what I would want - but that is probably more than many people do so - but hey, we roll with it.
This summer he will take on more duties than I will as I start the downward slope of my classes.
its hard for us because both of us have demanding jobs - the difference is that while i come home and HAVE to clean things up before i can relax (its my OCD - everything in its place!) he comes home and plops on the couch saying it can wait.
i foudn though if i give him specific jobs, he knows thats his job so when it piles up i might have to ask him once, but he gets it done - things like the trash and recycling, laundry, etc.
my standard of clean and HIS standard of clean are very different though. so if i want it cleaned to my standard i always end up going behind him and redoing everything. its so annoying. lol
I cook and do the dishes, but when it comes to cleaning, my husband does more than his fair share. I just don't clean often and it relaxes him. We're still trying to find a balance for that.
I usually do most of the work and it takes him to tell me about 3 different times to do something...however, I'm currently w/o a job so I think its only fair :)
I do most of the domestic chores, but DH does all the really gross stuff (like take out the trash, clean the litterbox and dog poo, and clean the bathrooms). Since he does that, I consider it "even" for the sake that I'm just dealing with dishes and laundry and vacuuming and such. We're pretty evenly split on taking care of the vehicles, I can handle an oil change. I had to draw up a schedule of chores though, because he'll just let the house get to disastrous proportions before he decides it's too much. I like to maintain it weekly. So far my little chore chart has really helped!
I do pretty much everything. My husband works and goes to school full time. I work part time and am kind of ocd about how I like the house anyway...
He does a lot but I do all the jobs he hates! :P He loves to cook, I do the cleaning and wash the dishes, he does the laundry, I do the ironing. It's pretty even - but I type this as he's cooking! :P
We pretty much alternate cooking (by accident - it isn't something we ever discussed), I do a lot of the day to day indoor cleaning, and he covers the outdoor stuff and the more mechanical cleaning (changing air filters, cleaning the humidifier etc)
We tend to be pretty even. He is very great and does all the things I despise. He is 100% in charge of laundry and does the lion's share of dishes (depending on how far into the semester we are. Towards finals, he's preoccupied with school). I like to cook, and end up doing most of the cleaning.
I'm not going to lie... He does most of the work around the house. 95% of all meals are made by him (he is an amazing cook) and since the kitchen is basically his "territory" he does the majority of the kitchen clean up as well. Heavy lifting "man chores" like taking out the trash, etc are usually done by him. I keep the bathroom cleaned and organized and almost always do the laundry unless I'm not home to switch it and he is. It works out pretty well for us and we have been living together for about 2 years so there shouldn't be any big surprises after we are married :)
When my fiance and I first moved in together, I was unemployed (and stayed that way for five months), so I did pretty much all of the cleaning, errands, cooking, etc. I just started a new job 2/1 and we're working on a more equitable division of labor. My fiance and I have REALLY different definitions of "clean", though, and he just doesn't notice stuff the way I do. Once I specifically ask him to clean the bathroom, he'll do it. But I'm frightened to see how long it would take for him to just clean it on his own.
Well we both work 60+ hour weeks, so we don't cook or clean much - yay for living in NYC and having a maid coming every other (an important ingredient to a solid marriage for us!). Beyond that, its pertty even - we each do our own laundry, I do more of the dishes when we do use them and he throws out the trash, sweeps the leaves, does any home fixing we might need....he is much better at straightening up (he sees mess) and I am better at cleaning (I see dirt). He takes care of the car and I take care of the bills.....we never talked about it, it just worked out that we do the things we think about most. I would NEVER think about getting the oil changed and it would never occur to him that the gross stuff in the fridge should be in the trash :)
We're pretty equal. I cook, he cleans up after we're done eating. We both share the laundry responsibilities, we both do the shopping together, we both vacuum, we both shovel snow (ugh). He takes out the trash, usually cleans out the cat boxes and mows the lawn. I dust/wipe things clean, make the bed, unload the dishwasher.
He does 99%, I handle the food (grocery shopping and cooking), he does everything else. My acceptable living standard is a lot less neatfreakish than his and he doesn't have a job right now, so he handles all the laundry, dishes, floors, kitty litter, etc. I think we'll have to strike a ballance once he's working again, but while he's home all day he takes care of the place.
I'm a grad student who works from home and he's in sales, working 65-70 hrs a week. I do almost all of the home things, with help from him when I specifically ask for it.
He likes to cook, and will do his own laundry, but won't clean the bathroom vacuum or dust at all.... which leaves me with the chores! oh well. At least I know when I clean, it's really clean!
We just moved in together but so far (and I hope it continues)... it seems like I do the grocery shopping, most meals (including making him lunch every morning), and most of the laundry. He does the dishes after I cook, and shovels the driveway (and i think will mow the lawn), and helps out with laundry when i ask. We plan to split cleaning. We both keep things pretty picked up.
it's pretty even, because he does most the cooking (he has a food blog and it's his creative outlet) and laundry (because he's pickier about folding than i am). we usually grocery shop together, and take turns taking care of the dog. but i get frustrated sometimes because all the little housework things--reorganizing, making the bed, dusting, cleaning the bathroom, etc--fall on me, and they seem little but add up to a lot. and i get frustrated about having to nag him about "his" jobs that he doesn't love--like taking out the trash. i mean, cooking is a huge help, but he loves it, so it's doesn't always feel as even as it is...
This has been a thorn in our relationship! I'm a clean freak and his definition of cleaning is shoving it out of sight! ARGH. To save our relationship and my sanity we set up a deal. He has one room he can competely be in charge of (not a common room) and he chose the office, as long as I have a path to my desk he can trash that place till the cows come home and he does!!!
But, he pays for maids to come in every 2 weeks and cleans. He has been getting better and has helped me with laundry (putting it away) and dishes (filling the dishwasher) but yeah. I do everything else!
P.S. We pay $90 for the maids and this $180-200 a month is SOO worth it! I have dust allergies and it's so nice to come home and not worry about dusting, sweeping, vacuuming, think about it! :)
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