Post # 1
Who’s contributing more to the wedding? You or your FI?
It’s quite common in my culture that the groom/groom’s family pays for the wedding. It’s unlikely that we would accept too much from our parents. I’m estimating how much I would probably end up contributing and I think it would be more than what my Fiance can contribute. I’m not sure if it would make him feel weird or not, but how is it for the rest of you?
Post # 3
It’s not really official, he makes more and has been at his job long enough to have a better padded savings account.. so he will likely be writing the final venue/catering check.. but i have been paying for all my DIY stuff along the way, and the dress, and some of the down payments… so it will mostly equal out.. and by then whats his is mine, whats mine is his.. so we’re not really worrying about keeping it 100% equal its more like, “oh, hon, i got this one…” I just have an easier time doing the multiple little payments than the one huge check at once.
Post # 4
We are paying for our wedding expenses completely, save for the rehearsal dinner and my dress. I am contributing more than he is for the wedding, because right now I make substantially more money than he does. He is working part time with a non-profit and getting his MPA… and I’m a teacher. Once he starts his career, he will most definitely make more than I do.
Post # 5
We have a joint acct, so everything gets paid from that, but since Fiance makes (almost exactly) twice what I do I guess you could say he’s paying more (though it could also be read that I’m payng proportionally more…) Since our finances are completely meshed, we don’t really differentiate.
Post # 6
Hopefully we will get some help (fingers crossed) but as of right now we are paying for most of the wedding..Fiance has been at his job longer and makes me money than me, so he will prob end up paying for more. But in the end isn’t both our money anyway ?! 🙂
Post # 7
Darling Husband put more money towards the wedding than me for the sheer fact that he was deployed at the time, not paying any taxes, did not have any living expenses, and was able to bank 100% of his income and he made about 50% more than me. Meanwhile I had the mortgage and living expenses of the house (and JUST started my first real job out of college) so it only made sense for “him” to shell out more money. It was completely a joint decision for the wedding though. He felt strongly about having a larger wedding with all his family there, so it was a lot of his decision to pay for that. But I tried to offset that by DIYing a lot of smaller things and being as money-conscious as I could possibly be.
Post # 8
Our finances are 100% combined but I make quite a bit more than he does so technically me, I guess.
Post # 9
I am paying more for the wedding, but he is paying for our honeymoon so it balances out. It’s never really been an issue and we just try to do what we can without stressing out too much.
Post # 10
We are paying for the wedding ourselves and took a serious look at our monthly income/expenses and then agreed on an amount each of us could contribute each month….Fiance makes about 3x what I do, so he obviously contributes more.
Post # 11
50/50 but my mum is paying for most of the Canadian wedding.
Post # 12
neither. we’re splitting everything equally.
Post # 13
Our finances are combined 100%, as we have been living together for 5 and a half years. Over the years the big bucks earner has see sawed between us, although currently he earns more than me- but as an average over the entire time we have lived together it will probably work out 50/50.
Post # 14
@thatelisagirl – my name is Elisa too! 🙂
We are both contributing 50% each. He makes more money, but I’ve gotten some side jobs to make up for my half.
Post # 15
I actually spent more, but thats because I used most of my savings for the wedding, I had been saving for years knowing that I wanted to use that $ for the wedding.
My hubs did pay for the honeymoon & the rings (even though I know I was supposed to buy his, eh well!)
Post # 16
Our money is joint, so we’re contributing equally. i do make a bit more than him, but nothing significant.