Post # 1
My fiancé and I are both Christian, both attend church but are two different denominations. I am Baptist and he is Anglican.
I know there are many couples who also come from different denominations and I would love to hear about what you’ve done –
have you both kept with your own denominations and kept your church lives completely separate or are you taking an active role in each of your churches?
have you both agreed to join another denomination in order to show unity as a couple?
has one of you joined the other’s denomination?
Please share your thoughts and experiences.
Our stance at the moment is that we will both attend our own churches but we will attend the other’s church with them once every 6 weeks or so. Our church styles are very different – his is organ music, no singing songs before 1930, reading things out loud as a congregation etc. – mine is drums, modern songs, “happy clappy” sort of stuff. I am not saying either way is right or wrong, they are just different and it wouldn’t be fair to ask either of us to give up their way, unless they wanted to.
We haven’t discussed in which denomination we would raise our children but, based on what my fiancé said when I suggested us both leaving our church and finding one that was perhaps a bit quieter for me and a bit livelier for him, was that he wanted me to stay at my church because of the good chilfren’s work (no children go to his church really, he is the youngest regular attender!)
Post # 3
We are both Lutheran and met at a Lutheran high school. Our parents made it clear that we were to marry Lutherans as well. If I married a non-Lutheran they would have to go to church with me or it would not work out. Having the spiritual bond of going to church together, taking communion together, and praying together is not something I could compromise.
Post # 4
Yep DH and I are both Lutheran of the same domination of Lutheran also. So it worked out well.
Post # 5
I grew up Methodist and he grew up Baptist. I attended a Methodist church regularly before we met, though hadn’t formally joined. He was a little lax in his church-going before we met, so didn’t regularly attend anywhere as an adult. (Neither of us grew up in the city where we currently live.)
We started coming to my church, and we decided together to join my church…so now he is Methodist and it’s a good fit for him. We will be getting married at our church. It worked out 🙂
Post # 6
I am Lutheran and he is Catholic. Currently we attend a Catholic Church because the nearest church in my Lutheran denomination is over an hour away. On the Sundays we don’t attend we watch the service from my home church online.
If the Lutheran Church were closer we would go to that. I maintained a regular church attendance during college and taught Sunday school. Since I was way more involved he always came to my church and has expressed an interest in joining. The only thing holding us back is how far we live from the church. We are currently looking into other Lutheran denominations as their churches are much closer to us.
Our children will be raised Lutheran.
Post # 7
I go to a Baptist church and FI is Catholic. We’ve attended eachother’s churches, we’ve done a couples Bible study at my church and are doing a pre-marriage class at his. I have no plans to become Catholic and he’s not going to become Baptist. It hasn’t been a problem.
I go to church almost every Sunday and volunteer there but FI goes to church only a few times a year. We’re getting married by a family friend, not at the Catholic church, so we didn’t have to pledge to raise our kids Catholic. Since I attend church more regularly, I figure our future kids will go to church with me unless he decides to take them to mass. It really doesn’t matter to me what denomination our kids are.
Post # 8
I was in the Assemblies of God for 25 years prior to marrying my DH, who is a Baptist pastor. Obviously, I now attend the church that my husband pastors. I love my husband and my new church family very much. They are wonderful people, and I receive a great deal out of my DH’s sermons. However, I must admit that I miss very much the more overtly Spirit-filled atmosphere and dynamic, contemporary worship that I was blessed to be a part of at my former church.
Post # 9
When FH was growing up, he was raised in a Lutheran church. I was raised in a Baptist church and that is where I have been my whole life. We are now both members of this church, and while Baptist in name, it is really a non-denominational church. It works well for us.
Post # 10
I’m Lutheran, he is Catholic. We were married in my church and attend my church. He never converted but attends with me and was married there. We also intend to raise our children Lutheran as well!
Post # 11
I was raised Baptist, DH was raised Pentecostal. We decided to find a non-denominational Christian church that we could attend together. So now, we both belong to/attend the same church 🙂
Post # 12
I raised Lutheran (with one parent Lutheran and one Catholic) and converted to Catholic 2 yrs ago. My SO is Catholic.
Post # 13
We are if 2 different christian faiths. When we attend church, we each go to our own and we’re fine with this arrangement. I find more faith in silent prayer and meditation, so it’s fine that he’s not at church with me when I’m there to really collect my thoughts and connect to something deeper within me.
Post # 14
@Brielle: Apologize for threadjack – but I had to say, in the past I’ve attended Assemblies of God services with friends and loved every minute of it. Amazing experience, to say the least!
Threadjack over. 😉
Post # 15
I’m so glad to hear that the AoG services you have attended have been a blessing to you! 🙂
Post # 16
@Brielle: The music was my favorite part, I love contemporary Christian songs. 🙂