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I haven't seen my parents since J and I got engaged, and while we were video chatting (go skype!) the other day, my mom asked me to hold my ring up to the camera so she could see it. I did, and she commented, "That looks bigger than mine! How many carats is it?!"
I defered the question (rude much, mom? haha) and asked how big hers is.
Mind you, my parents have been married 30 years this summer.
Her response? "Oh, I don't remember, a carat maybe?"
Dad started laughing and corrected her - "It's a QUARTER carat!"
After 30 years, my parents are going strong. They love each other and have an amazing marriage. And my mom couldn't even remember how big her stone is, after having it on her hand for 30 years.
Just a reminder that the ring is a symbol, but not the kind where size or cost or quality equates to the size or value or quality of your love. A symbol of the two of you joining together, and moving through life together, and love that doesn't end. It's helped me keep it in perspective, and I hope it can help you too, if you're concerned over your ring. :)
That's cute! That's definitely something important to remember! :)
haha so true. I asked my mom what her e-ring was the other day (actually just asked her to describe it to me because it was stolen and I don't remember ever seeing it) and she had no idea what the ct weight was. Even the ring my dad got her for their 29th anniversary which is a 3 stone oval cut that I would guess is AT LEAST 2 ct total weight (prob a bit more actually) she had no idea. Pretty is pretty. :)
Oh my gosh, I *love* this post. :) So true and what a sweet story!!! <3
What a great post to remind us all about the meaning behind our rings of ALL shapes and sizes :)
Funny, my mom asked how big my ring was, too....then i told her....and dad upgraded her with 2 more carats. Oye.
Moms are funny. But you're so right...it's the symbol and what's behind it that matters most. Most of the people in our families in very long relationships (30+ years) don't have ginormous rings by any means, either!
Very well put! I wouldn't trade my ring for anything.
good post! My mom's diamond is even smaller, she has what is called a "chip"...my parents have been married for 38 years...Dad didn't have a lot of mone when he proposed. Mom's ring has never left her finger (except to do dishes) She's happy with her ring... I have a .5 carat and I'm just as happy with mine....
Very good point! Sometimes we get caught up in the not so important things, and need a little perspective :)
great post!!! Very well said and i could not agree more!!!!
:) I'm glad you guys enjoyed my li'l anecdote.
It's silly, but when she said it, all I could think was, "I gotta share this with Weddingbee...." hehe.
I love this story! My parents have been married for 40 years and I know that my mom has no idea what size her diamond is and doesn't care. I guess I am a lot like her (as much as I hate to admit it) because I have no idea what size I have either and like her I could care less. =)
Thank you for sharing!!
Yep! My parents have been happily married 32 years and my mom had no idea how big her diamond (which she lost a few years ago was). Dad said it was .25 carat! It didn't matter to her.
Here! Here! That is definitely something to remember. Extremely well said and a very valid point.
Oh, and my parents are hitting 35 years in June and my mother doesn't even have a diamond in her ring. Food for thought.
When my parents got engaged my mom got a chip, and has since been upgraded a few times to I think a carat now. They have been married for 31 years. I am the one who doesn't know how big mine is...its cut into a few different stones so I'm not sure what the total weight is
That is so sweet! My mum never had an engagement ring and my parents are still happily married after over 30 years. After I got an engagement ring, though, Dad got her a giant right hand ring which she loves. I think she finally had second thoughts about the no-diamonds look!
my dad just took a ring that my mom was already wearing (her grandma's) and moved it from one finger to the other to propose. he had no money then. for a recent anniversary he went out and bought her a big diamond, but it was 30 something years later.
My mom didn’t have an engagement ring, or any diamonds either. Up until I was about 13 or 14 (and by that time they had already been married almost 25 years), she had only her wedding band. When my great-Aunt passed away, she left my mom a couple of loose diamonds, and my mom decided to have one “put into” (not sure of technical term) her wedding band. But if she hadn’t been given the diamonds, she would still just have her gold wedding band, and they are going strong at 39 years this past Saturday! :)
My parents got married when they were about 20 years old and my mom's engagment ring was a little tiny diamond. My dad got her a big ol' rock (about 1 ct) for their 30th anniversary. She wears both rings (her e-ring is now too small for her ring finger, so she wears it on her pinky), as well as her mother's wedding ring, which has a tiny diamond chip in it. I love seeing them all together.
That's a really cute story. My parents will be married 50yrs in May - I doubt my mom has any idea what size her ring is. She knows it's princess cut, but my SIL had to tell her that the side pieces were baguettes. She's not a jewelry person my mom.
My mom always has a band on but rarely wears her e-ring. Whenever I'm talking about ring size I always hear my mom in my head, "You don't wear diamonds to change diapers & clean the bathroom floor." Words of wisdom. ;)
Sooooooooooo true. I absolutely love my ring. It's not big at all, bu tit is perfect for me.
Very sweet, I agree! My mom's was 1/4 carat too and my parents were married for 32 years :)
You are so right. My parents will be married 38 years this August. Even though my dad bought her a larger ring for their 35th, mom still wears her original set most of time. I think it's sweet. :)
Absolutely!
My parents have been married for 32 years and have a fantastic relationship. On their 20 year anniversary my Dad offered to "upgrade" her modest engagement ring. But she declined - because this was the ring that she had work and cherished as a symbol of their relationship for so long! When I got engaged I almost felt a little guilty that my E-ring was larger than hers. She just loves HER ring...she says it helps her remember how far they've come - in every sense. :) So touching.
My mom didn't have an engagement ring when my parents got married, she just had a wedding band for the first 10 years. One Christmas, we were doing our normal Christmas-eve gift-opening thing (just me and my mom and dad) and I was all stoked over some robots or something, and all of a sudden my mom is crying. And my dad had secretly gotten her this awesome fat solitaire and not told ANYONE. I hadn't really thought of it until now, but it was really cool to see my mom get her engagement ring 10 years late.
That's so sweet! Thank you for posting! Sometimes I'll look at other people's rings & wish mine were bigger, but all in all I would NEVER change my ring unless my husband decides later that he wants to upgrade for me. He chose this ring out all by himself & that is why I love it so much.
my parents have been married for 30 years and my dad actually never gave my mom an engagement ring! she's very low key and budget conscious so she told my dad that she would rather have him save the money for when they're married than spend it on a ring. since she didn't have an e-ring they got matching gold wedding bands. i admit i kinda like the look of having matching wedding bands. there's something sentimental about it.
Diamonds are trends. My dad couldn't afford much so it was probably only 1/4 or even less? I'm amazed your dad remembered! I think it's funny because my mom would rather get fake diamonique which she gets more comments on than most rings! I wear one of hers and people oooh and ahh over it.
You're so right. my moms e-ring was probably 1/10 of a ct! if not less. its the most delicate ring ive ever seen. and my parents have been together going on 23 very happy yrs!
i was actually having doubts about my ct size but like OttawaBride2011 said : "Sometimes we get caught up in the not so important things, and need a little perspective" i needed that and i got it from all you bees! i've always loved my ring but i love it so much more now!
It's a good reminder to keep things in perspective! I think a lot of emphasis is put on the size/cut/style of the engagement ring right at the beginning, but 50 years from now most people won't even remember the details!
What a sweet story! Add my mom to the list of those who only had a wedding band at first. My father got her a 1 carat solitaire to go with it on their 25th anniversary. Now they have been married 50 years....still using the same wedding band and the solitare.
My mum doesn't even wear her rings anymore - her band had to be cut off and she never got it fixed and these days she alternates between her engagement ring, a variety of rings she's bought or inherited or just nothing at all. A little diamond really doens't mean all that much.
Very well put! In a world where it's "bigger is better" mentality it's nice to remember the real sentiment behind gifts and love tokens.
so nice to see that size is not important. So many are saying show me your ring and in their mind I know they are sizing people up.. I like this story. thanks for sharing. i'm just glad I got to live to see a diamond on my hand.
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